u/Elastic_squirel0

Hi everyone! I’m struggling…I’m 4 weeks in my new role and there is no training at all. My manager is brand new to her role and doesn’t know a thing. She has taken more vacations than she has worked.

The guy that I’m replacing has been trying to help me as much as possible but he is trying to learn his new role as well.

The usual method is that the manager does majority of the training. I’m at a loss of what to do…I have been networking as much as possible in the company to get help.

One of the other issues is, there’s a lot of instances in my work day where I need manager escalation but she’s never there. Would you go to your director?

Please keep in mind that my boyfriend and I worked together for about 4 months until we started dating. When my bf and i first started dating he always took me on dates. We would see each other mostly on the weekend.

He would frequently offer me $20 here and there to spend at my own leisure, compliment me often, talk about our future and how he wanted to give me the world. This man was extremely sweet to me all the time.
Me and my boyfriend worked together for awhile and I knew that I had to leave the company since I saw myself marrying him.
Flash forward, dating for a year, privately. I left the company, job offer rescinded, unemployed for a month and now I’m in a new role.

I feel like the support has gone out the window, we don’t go on dates, he barely wants to do anything. I’m extremely active and love being outside and he’s always complaining that it’s cold. He says stuff that makes me feel like he’s just projecting his emotions onto me.

The most recent thing that I noticed. We used to talk about marriage often. I brought it up and he said that we are going to have to save up for “years” because of the wedding and house that I want.

I mentioned to him that I would be willing to have a smaller/ cheaper wedding because I don’t want to go broke over it.
He makes a lot of money. His bonuses are over $50,000+. He invests his money like crazy and drops $30,000+ frequently into stocks for retirement.

I had to make a sacrifice for the both of us by leaving the company and throwing away my amazing career that I was good at. I was left without income for over a month and had to spend my savings/ credit card. Never once did I ask him for money, never once did he offer to help me.

Does anyone have any advice for me as to how I should approach this? If I’m overreacting please call me out.