Met a great (I hope) guy on an adult chat site-is it crazy to meet up IRL?
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I (33F) am demisexual and recently joined an adult chat site (Lewd Chat) looking for a spark that standard porn couldn't provide. I ended up connecting deeply with a man (33M) who is emotionally intelligent, shares my values, and respects my boundaries.
We've moved to Discord, video chatted, and have been incredibly transparent. He lives 5 hours away and wants to visit soon (staying in a hotel). I did one of those background checks online and everything aligns with what he's told me so far. We've already negotiated consent, safety, and agreed to exchange verified STI results. I know having sex on a first visit is not recommended, but realistically I know it could happen, tension is very much there.
I'm naturally cautious and a bit embarrassed about where we met and I've never done this before.
- Has anyone actually found a genuine, safe connection starting on an anonymous adult chat site?
- What are red flags to look out for?
- Can these sites actually have "good" people on them?
- Has anyone had any experience with this? (Good, bad, any success?)
I'd love to hear any and all input, thank you!!