My (27m) husband won’t get intimate with (28f) me anymore. I’ve been told multiple times he’ll “work on it”, but nothing changes. Now we’re at the point where I’m lucky if I can get intimacy once every 3-6mo What would you do in my situation?
We’ve been married 5 years and have two children together. Before we were married, we used to do “it” almost every day, then about 3 months after the wedding that changed to once every week or two. It’s progressed quite a bit and I’m not sure how to move forward. If I don’t personally try to initiate, he would go 7 months without touching me. (It only stopped at 7 because I couldn’t keep myself from him anymore and I initiated). We’ve talked about this a lot and I’m always met with the “I’ll work on it. It’s a me issue” which is followed by one night of intimacy within the next few days and then straight back to the way it was. I’ve suggested therapy with no luck. I’ve made it very clear that my needs are not being met and it’s been made clear in return, that this isn’t a concern for him. Can I please get some outside opinions?