Future MIL keeps acting like I’m after their family money
I’m getting so goddamn exhausted by this situation and I don’t even know if I’m overreacting anymore.
My fiance and I were talking through stuff before the wedding like finances savings future plans all of that and the topic of a prenup came up. Neither of us was throwing plates over it or anything and we both kind of saw it as one of those better safe than sorry convos that’s easier to have while everything is good instead of years later if life ever goes sideways.
Then his mother found out and suddenly I feel like I’m being treated like some kind of scam artist trying to infiltrate the family. She keeps making little comments that are technically subtle enough that nobody else calls them out directly but obvious enough that I know what she’s implying. Stuff about people changing after marriage or you really never know someone completely. At one point she even made a comment about how important it is for families to protect what they’ve worked hard for and then looked directly at me while saying it smh.
What’s really driving me nuts is that I’m the one who originally brought up the prenup because I’ve seen messy divorces completely destroy people financially before. Somehow his mother twisted that into me being some calculated gold digger trying to scheme her way into the family. My partner agreed with it too because we both think it’s smarter to talk through practical things before emotions ever get messy years down the line. Now every interaction with her feels tense and weird and I’m starting to dread family dinners because I can practically feel her sizing me up like I’m secretly plotting something.
I don’t even know how I’m supposed to have a normal relationship with someone who already seems convinced I’m a threat before I’ve even joined the family.