Broke up with him because he didn’t have a timeline and was more of a go with the flow kind of guy.
Hi guys, I’m a 23F and recently broke up with a 28M. Forgive me for any grammatical errors. So as the title says, I broke up with my bf about 3 weeks ago because he couldn’t give me a timeline of what he would like to achieve nor any necessary plans/ roadmap of how he plans to go about it.
I dated this guy for a little over a year and he was a nice guy but constantly needed to be pushed for him to achieve something. I started dating him when he was unemployed with his VA check being his mainly source of income. I work full time and go to college full time. We live separately and he used to drive about an hour nearly every week to visit me. He paid for the dates most of the time and even sent me money a few times. I motivated him until he eventually got a job and even started a trade and finished. He treated me the same throughout our relationship but he used to struggle with communication and ED until he eventually started taking vaegra pills to be able to do it. It was both our first time and I lost my virginity to him.
2 weeks before we broke up he spent nearly $2000 on my birthday trip to NY. This was part of the VA check he received 2 months earlier and it was about $20k and we agreed that he was gonna save it for the future but all the money was gone. At some point I saw a text of his mom asking him to borrow her $3k.
What pushed me to break up with him was the fact that he told me that he doesn’t keep track of how much money he spent in a month and his monthly income is about $5000 including the VA check. When I asked him about the timeline of when his planning to move out of his parent’s house he had no answer. Yet he plans on helping his mom pay for a second house while he was still living at home and said he wanted his own home and a family in a few years. He randomly told me to give him 2 years and then went ahead to say that I pressured him and that’s why he told me 2 years to get me off his back.
It’s been 3 weeks of no contact and I’ve been thinking about it. Did I do the right thing?