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My little boy turned 16 weeks this week and it’s like he changed overnight. He would have 6 feeds in 24 hours, 150-180ml each time. This week I can barely get 90ml down him at each feed until he decides he doesn’t want any anymore. He will cry and push the bottle away, we take breaks etc and sometimes he will take the rest but other times he is completely done. 
I decided to take him to the doctors on Friday and they examined him and physically he was fine no infections/ilness etc. They advised it could be silent reflux or teething.
Other than my collustrum at the beginning we have been on Kendamil since he was born. But the doctors suggested trying him on an anti reflux milk. I’m a bit reluctant to change his milk as don’t want to cause any other problems etc but has anyone ever tried a different milk for this reason? I know there’s Kendamil comfort which isn’t an anti reflux milk as such but has good reviews?

I also want to add he is never sick and I can lie him down straight after a feed, he also sleeps well during the night with no crying etc which I imagine he would do if he had reflux? He doesn’t arch his back or pull his legs up either.

Do you think this is reflux or do you think this could be his age? I’ve read a lot about distraction etc when feeding at this age.
He also wants to put anything else in his mouth at any given opportunity, so when he’s feeding he’d much rather put his hands in his mouth or his bib or muslin etc. So could tjis be teething even though he isn’t showing any actual teeth yet?

I also want to add we use mam bottles and the size 2 teat which he gets on well with. 

One other thing I’ve noticed is he is squeezing a lot to poo and farting so much more sometimes half way through the bottle. I’ve read this could be infant dyschezia?

I’ve also been reading about a bottle aversion and I’m scared it’s this? Has anyone ever had experience of the above and can recommend anything that helped? Or any tips or advice? I’ve been loosing my mind this week and panicking so much about his intake. 

I’m a FTM to the happiest little smiley boy, I would 100% describe him as an easy baby. Sleeps well and is content during the day. We go out on walks, go to sensory classes and out with mum friends for coffee/lunch.
However this week I’ve taken him to a friends house and into my work to meet people. He has cried the entire time and would not be held by anyone but me. He would really get himself into such a state, full on tears meltdown which was so upsetting to see and I would take him back straight away. I had to go to the toilet at one point and could just hear him scream crying for me whilst my friend held him outside the door. It would even take me a while to settle him again because he would get so worked up! I couldn’t sleep that night as I kept thinking about how upset he was and it made me feel like an awful mum like I’m putting him through things too soon? Is it too much?
Then today I tried to pop into Sainsbury’s but he cried the entire time, like full on scream crying I gave up and came home. Feeling a bit like a failure but is this normal?
As soon as he’s home with me and my husband he is literally so happy smiling, chatting etc.
Am I trying to go places too soon? Am I doing too much and putting him through things he shouldn’t be doing? Or is this normal for the 14 week mark? We have a bbq at a friend’s house tomorrow and im so nervous.