How to build trust? (sub perspective).
Hi everyone, I’m a 24 F sub. I’m looking for advice on what a healthy, trusting sub & dom relationship should look like while I’m new to looking for a permanent relationship with a dom.
It’s something I’ve only recently confirmed I need in my life. So I am scared of not communicating my needs correctly, not understanding what a safe/mutual dynamic looks like and falling into a situation that I don’t feel stable in and finding someone who is only interested in their needs. Feeling safe enough to give up control is where my own needs lie.
I’m a very innocent sub, I don’t like having control AT all, but I don’t like to be humiliated or degraded. I like pain but mostly because I’m just desperate for praise and confirmation. I understand I can tell them this - but are there further questions they should be asking to help make sure things are safe, trusting and comfortable while things are under their control that would show they are a good companion?
But also, what are the those question and needs I should be communicating to a dom to make sure I’m in a comfortable and safe relationship with the kind of dynamic I’m looking for? Also that my needs are understood? Aswell, from your experience - what are things you found helpful to do/say/ask during to make sure things are okay that don’t kill the control over your sub? Just so I can have the open conversation before without feeling I’m giving up ANY control. Unfortunately it’s a severely sensitive dynamic for me, it has to be strict no control AT ALL or I loose interest which makes things difficult because I understand I am also responsible for my preferences and voicing what I’m comfortable with.
Bonus question: Are there different types of subs and what would I fall under if so?
Thanks everyone, a noob.