My boyfriend started Celexa about a month ago, and since then he’s had a harder time finishing during sex. I actually wasn’t worried about that at first because I’ve been on antidepressants before and had similar side effects.
But recently, I have been getting in my head a bit because it seems he has no problem coming by himself. Almost everyday after I leave for work in the morning, he masturbates and leaves his cum towel on the nightstand. When I see it after I get home from work, he always says "i woke up after you left and could smell your smell on the bed and it made me horny thinking about you".
I know solo vs partnered sex can feel different, but the timing makes it hard not to take it personally. It kind of feels like he can finish, just not with me. He says he thinks about me when he does it, but I’ll be honest, I have some insecurity about not being his “type,” already and this situation is making that worse. I am in fact, NO WHERE near his type and I just worry that he waits for me to leave in the morning to watch porn of someone who is nothing like me. I have always been a very open person sexually and I have never had an issue with porn use....but usually my partner still wanted me even with porn use. It feels like its preferable right now.
This morning I tried to initiate hoping that maybe the issue is that mornins are easier since its before he taks his meds. I literally took my underwear off and rubbed my ass on his dick for 15 mins. He turned away from me which i took as rejection but he later said he didn't notice i took my underwear off or that I was rubbing on him and that he wasnt rejecting me.
So I guess I’m asking:
Is it common to be able to finish alone but struggle during sex on SSRIs?
Does this usually have more to do with pressure/performance than attraction?
Is there anything partners can do to make sex feel easier in this situation? I don't even know how I would go about sharing this insecurity I have. We have already had so many talks about the not being his type thing before.