u/EllieLou80

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I have a 16 year old boy who's autistic. Since puberty started he's really struggled with his self image. He literally hates everything about himself, both physical and personality, which i know are just normal teenage issues.

Presently I'm struggling with his refusal to get his photo taken which he needs done for his identification ID.

The issue is his facial hair, hes got think sideburns, under chin hair and starting to grow on his face. He absolutely hates it and wrars a scarf pulled right up to hide it. I've spoken to him about shaving, even bought an electric shaver for him but he won't even let the words, shaving come out of my mouth. He won't engage with a conversation other than to tell me he wants all the hair hone, yet wont let me help him do that.

I feel completely out of my depth. I'm not in a relationship with hus dad, and although my child sees his dad this us not a conversation my son will have with him.

I've no male family members to turn to but I'm at a loss as to what to do. I need this ID done, but i need him to be happy with the photo as its a 10 year ID.

Im not sure if I'm looking for you all to tell me what to do? Or if I'm just venting or if I'm just looking for support. I know his autism plays a part in this. Ultimatums are not how i parent either and ive had all the logical conversations im allowed broach to his comfort zone and other than tying him down and shaving his face...joke... I'm not sure what else to do