Girl shows indirect interest but completely ignores me in real life?
Hey, I need some honest opinions because I genuinely don’t understand what’s going on between us anymore.
We’ve known each other since last year through mutual friends. Back then, she actually searched for my Instagram herself and texted me first. We talked a lot, and according to her friends, she’s also said multiple times that she likes me.
Now our whole friend group constantly ships us. Her friends keep telling me to “make a move,” and she hugs me differently than other guys too. So I can definitely tell I’m not just some random guy to her.
BUT in reality, almost nothing comes directly from her.
I asked her twice if she wanted to hang out:
- the first time was spontaneous and she supposedly couldn’t because of problems with her mom,
- the second time was planned, but she canceled because of school/appointments and stuff.
Both reasons were actually valid, but still, nothing ever really happened.
Then yesterday we were both at a house party and later at a festival with friends. And she literally did NOT say a single word to me. Not even “hi.” It genuinely felt like we had beef or were ignoring each other. I also didn’t do anything because honestly I’m tired of feeling like I have to do everything.
Then I asked her friend what the deal even is, because everyone always tells me to “do something.” Her friend said:
“I don’t think it’s gonna happen.”
I asked why and she replied:
“You guys need to talk.”
And now I’m completely confused.
Because:
- behind my back she seems interested,
- her friends keep pushing it,
- she hugs me,
- apparently she says things about me,
- but directly towards me there’s almost nothing.
I’m starting to feel like I have to do everything myself while she only gives indirect signs but no actual initiative.
So my questions are:
- Does this sound like real interest or more like attention/uncertainty?
- Why would someone completely ignore me in real life if they supposedly like me?
- Am I being too understanding and should I pay more attention to her actual behavior?
- Would you keep trying in my situation or start distancing yourself?
Please give honest opinions.