Dealing with people with BPD and community reception
I find the sub interesting, as someone who has handled people with BPD I definitely get how exhausting and tiring and resentful it can get and that when you suffer the abuse of people who have a disorder like this it's really fucking shit. But as an outsider stepping in to this community as I'm scrolling through, I understand that this sub is about venting and honestly everyone has been rightfully hurt. But one of the things I fear is I still believe there's an approach that could be counterproductive to healing (this isn't to forgive an abuser that's gnarly it's moreorso creating an understanding that causes less pain when one is processing),
and some of the abuse I've seen is stuff that isn't just in BPD, I feel like from what I've seen even if there is hurt I don't feel like the approach can be productive to bridge building and understanding general mental illness. It makes me think of what this sub thinks on people with BPD who are recovered, from what I've read. One of my heaviest concerns is that I'm perceiving that people with BPD are all bad which is unfortunately adding to the lack of nuance people with bpd are known to have.
I send this post because I'm looking for responses with nuance, of course dealing with peoples mental health is the most draining thing ever and we all don't deserve to be around someone who is not adding peace to our life. But of course, I have concerns about the nature of some of these posts, or the general behavior.
I am posting this because I feel like I want to share a concern and share what is on everyones mind, I cannot agree that a safe space exclusively involves a lack of nuance for any sort of mental illness whatsoever, because the actions that can come from this stuff is pretty fuckin shit, but this isn't to invalidate experience rather than explore curiosity.
However, I feel like talking about negative experiences with this disorder, validation and support is completely fair and hey fuck the people who wrong others in this regard.
What I am voicing is a general curiosity on what the community thinks about these issues, the emotions here are justified, however I want to take a step back and think over these aspects.
I'm posting this because I am someone who is generally interested in these aspects of human behavior and finding spaces where people discuss such things.