Met a guy last year a few months after he came out of a long term relationship. We had 3 really great dates but he ended it.
A few months later we reconnected, had one date, and I ended it because I felt like he only wanted something casual and my guard went up.
We ended up reconnecting again in the new year and honestly had the best time together as our chemistry is kind of unmatched. But on our first date since rekindling on Valentines (after a few drinks), he told me the ball is in my court if I want something casual, but that this won’t become a relationship. He also said maybe if we’d met at a different time maybe it would be different.
That really threw me. Part of me feels like we haven’t actually given this a proper shot because it’s been so stop start and a bit chaotic. But I also don’t want to feel like I’m settling for less than I want or being strung along.
After that, I pulled back a bit and replied quite curtly to his last message. We haven’t spoken since.
Now I’m torn:
- One part of me thinks I did the right thing because I want a relationship
- Another part of me feels like maybe we could have been great if we’d just let it develop more naturally
Did I make the right decision? Even if I want to be with him? It feels really wrong