u/Elodin_of_the_Origin

tl;dr - You know what I really want? I'm not looking for constant adventure, wining and dining, and all the conventional stuff. I just want a partner who's happy being at home with me, and we just...

Be together.

Let the stresses and all the hooks of the outside world fade away, as we go about doing the things we each want to do, but always within arms reach for companionship and cuddles. When it comes down to it, that's all I really want - a quiet, peaceful life. The other stuff in this post are just bonuses that I think will improve the odds of the relationship succeeding in the long run.

Also, if you like a partner that is good a reading people and makes you feel seen, I'm told I'm good at that.

If all that interests you, please keep reading.

Sorry in advance for the lengthy post. I'm a pretty... diverse and flexible person (aka delightfully weird. Definitely delightful), which I've found can make it hard for me to describe myself with text, without sounding like a bit of an asshole or completely self-deprecating. I also want to give as much insight as possible into what kind of person I am to save you time. Please send me a message if you have questions about anything. I consider myself a pretty open book.

(Also, I generally don't keep up with social media. Any buzz words used are probably not intentional.)

- A Few Things About Me -

Let's start with the super easy stuff! I'm 5' 10", 145lbs, with skin so pale, I literally glow in the dark. I have short, dark brown hair, with a short, full beard, and dark blue eyes. I'm happy to send a photo on request.

Also, as a bit of fair warning: I am honest to a fault. Literally. Mildly autistic? Maybe. I do try to be tactful and considerate, but I'm certainly not prefect.

- Deal-Breakers -

Some for me, and some that might be for you.

• I don't want kids.
• I'm not religious, and would rather not have a religious partner. Some forms of spiritualism are okay.
• I don't tolerate cheating.
• I'm strictly monogamous.
• Shouting matches instead of calm conflict resolution (I have some mild PTSD (formally diagnosed) when it comes to being screamed at by loved ones).
• Social games (like playing hard to get, saying "It's fine" when it's not, testing one another ("Would you still love me if I was a worm?"), etc). We're adults. We should communicate like them.
• I have a chronic illness/disability that currently makes me unable to work or drive, though I'm not completely inept (I have ME/CFS/Post-Viral Infection Syndrome - kind of like long-COVID. Not contagious). Feel free to ask any questions you'd like about it. 🙂
• I generally avoid politics. When I have to talk about them, I take on political issues on a case by case basis, rather than associate with one group. I don't describe myself as a Democrat, Republican, Moderate, Socialist, Libertarian, whatever.

- My Personality and Interests -

My friends describe me as:

• Empathetic
• Kind
• Confident
• Honest
• Realistic
• Logical

I also enjoy helping people and being of service to others, so if you ever want someone non-judgmental to vent to, please send me a message!

Oh, and I have an extremely dark sense of humor. Nothing is off limits for me, so give me your best/worst! 😈

As for my interests... Well, I was originally going to be an astrophysicist, but my disability nixed that. So I've been exploring random hobbies that might help supplement my income. Currently, I've settled on mechanical engineering, electrical engineering, 3D printing, and a bit of creative writing (mostly fantasy and sci-fi stuff).

I also love some fantasy and sci-fi novels and shows, random occult stuff (it's just so bizarre and interesting!), tabletop games (D&D and 40k), and of course video games. These days I play a fair bit of:

• ARC Raiders (Where I suck horribly!)
• Skyrim
• Dying Light: The Beast
• Sons of the Forest (Forest 3! SO EXCITED!)
• Minecraft
• Fallout 4
• Baldur's Gate 3
• Breath of the Wild 2

I enjoy pretty much all genres of music except jazz and most rap and country, but my favorites usually come on a song-by-song basis. Though, I do have a special place in my heart for artists like KOKIA, Approaching Nirvana, C418, Hans Zimmer, and more I'm sure I'm forgetting. So, here's a taste: one of my favorite songs of all time. (Give it a minute to warm up!)

- What I'm Looking For -

I admit I can be picky when it comes to personality in a partner. Most importantly, they need to be gentle, empathetic, laid back, and a good communicator. It's very important that me being vulnerable and having my own issues won't instantly scare you off - I've been ghosted for opening up too many times now. It really stings, and it's becoming tiresome. It's equally important to me that you don't bottle things up, and are willing to open up and be vulnerable with me.

I'd also prefer someone who expresses/enjoys receiving love by giving and receiving touch. Communicating affection is a close second. How can you know someone actually loves you if they don't say so?

It's also important to me that my partner never stops learning and growing as a person. To me, maturity is something we never stop developing.

As for physical traits... I'm pretty open, with what I think are realistic standards. I do think physical attraction is important though, even if it's not foundational. I find most qualities attractive, with a very small handful of outright turn-offs. I'm also a sucker for long, straight hair, and I'm learning I also have a bit of a weakness for tall women - though of course, neither are required traits. Physical appearance is second to personality.

As for actually starting a relationship, I'm totally open to taking things a little slowly, and even doing long distance for a while (even overseas).

- The Uncomfortable Topic! -

While I know it makes a lot of people uncomfortable to talk about, it's important to me to be open and be able to talk about sex, since it can easily break a relationship.

Firstly, I know a lot of people want to take at least a few weeks before doing anything sexual, and I'm okay with that, and generally prefer it. However, I refuse to be in a sexless relationship. Also, weaponizing sex to get a partner to do things is a big no no to me. It should never be used as a tool for anything except bonding.

Outside of that, I'm someone who generally likes gentleness and overall intimacy in sex more than the thing itself. I do also enjoy being dominant in bed (I call myself a gentle dom), so if you're into that kind of thing, yay! If you're not, no worries! I am plenty happy without it.

- That's It! -

And that's all I can think of for now. Though I'm also putting a hidden message here to see who actually read most of this before messaging me. So please message me the word "pancake" early on. Thank you! And please don't be shy about messaging me - I don't bite, and first impressions are whatever 🙂

I wish you all the best in finding what you want and need, and thank you for taking the time to read all of this ❤️