My kid outed me to my parents
My daughter is seven. I had her at 20 and lived with my parents the first year of her life. I got her baptized, (because that was their expectation) and she even got anointing of the sick en utero during my high risk pregnancy. Since then I’ve moved a few hours away, been successful on my own, and I’ve become more confident in my choice of not following the church, which shouldn’t come to a shock to my parents as I stopped going to church with them years ago expect for holidays and answer with “I’ll keep them in my thoughts” to prayer requests. My daughter talks occasionally about god, and recently I opened up to her about my beliefs, based more in science. I have since followed up and told her I still respect and love people with different beliefs, and it’s okay for her to explore others beliefs and one day she can decide for herself what she wants to believe. Well she recently spent a weekend at my parents, and my mom informed me she blurted out at dinner “did you know mom doesn’t believe in god?” They apparently said you must be mistaken and she doubled down and said “no, she believes in science” my mom asked if it was true. I said yes. She acted shocked, sad, and doesn’t understand of course and asked if she had done anything wrong. I said no, I just don’t want religion presented as fact to her. My mom said “I just don’t understand that after all the times He has touched her life… you don’t believe he has?” I said “no, I think there’s a lot of other reasonable explanations” And I told her I’ve felt this way for a long time. She also said “after everything she has gone through this year I don’t think this is the time to remove god from the equation” (me and her father separated last year).… so that struck a nerve as if I’m not putting her best interest first. Anyway at first I felt empowered to finally speak the truth, even if not by my own accord. That empowered feeling lasted about half a day, then turned to sadness. It’s sad that showing your parents the real you sometimes comes at the cost of breaking their hearts. I just know they are hurting sitting with this info and probably taking it as a mortal failure. This is all fresh, and I’m still processing. Guess I’m just looking to see if anyone has been in similar situation and how they navigated it as I’m sure there will be more convos with both my parents and daughter to follow.