I (F 16) just wanted to get other people's perspective on this , I guess, because I genuinely feel like I'm the one in the wrong. So basically, around 4-5pm my auntie (F 36) said I make tea for the family later when we have dinner then I told I'm doing to make the tea after I'm done with my homework because it was a lot and I didn't want to finish around 9pm like yesterday because I had to get some sleep in. Then, after that, she kept asking me when I was going to make the tea, and then I told her again that I just wanted to finish up this last paper, and then I'll make the tea for them.
After that, she started to make small remarks about me. Saying that I do nothing around the house and that when she asked me stuff , she always have to jump around for me , but when she asks me for stuff I take a long time to do it. So after a few minutes she got mad and said she was going to make the tea herself , but then I told her yet again that I really just want to finish up my homework real quick and I'll start making the tea. Then she got up and put the kettle on and after another few minutes I was done with the page , but then she told me she doesn't want tea anymore because I was busy with my homework. So after that i just made it for the rest of my family because she specifically told me she doesn’t want it anymore.
Then she got up and said I was being disrespectful because I didn't make tea for her then I told her like "But you said I shouldn't make it for you anymore." Then she made remarks about me again. Talking about how lazy am I and even bought up my relationship even though it had anything to do with the situation and said I'm acting like I'm an adult and something. Then she said she's done with me and then she doesn't want to talk to me anymore and said that I'm not allow in her room (my stuff are in there like pads etc bc she used them too) and said if I step inside the room she will slap me.
After that I started crying and finished up with my homework and went to bed. I just wanted to finish homework because I really didn't want to be tired when I go to school the next day. My auntie is unemployed and she stays with me (and my little brother) in my grandparents house they are the ones taking care of me since my mother passed away and because my father is a deadbeat.
But I guess I do get where she is coming from because I am pretty lazy when it comes to house chores and sometimes I will not have time to do it because of school work so she keeps telling me that I'm lazy and I that never do anything around the house , but I feel like she acted like I was playing games on my phone instead of doing actual work like school work.