u/Embarrassed-March991

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE SOMEONE ANSWER ME. I need advice on what to do regarding this situation and also vent about it. I've been dealing with it on my own for too long.

I used to work at a job as a teacher that fucked my mental health. At first was okay, then I got offered a better position with a better salary (bc the teaching job, the salary was a shit honestly). It fucked my mental health. I SWEAR I'm not exaggerating or making things up, but I've worked from 6 am until 10, 11pm. At first they used to pay me, but in january, all of a sudden, they started to delay the payment. And from january until april 15th of this year I didn't get paid anymore. They own me 7000 almost (it doesn't matter the currancy, imagine 7000 in YOUR currancy). There was a time where I didn't have time to eat, because I used to work from 6 am until 12:30 pm and then I started to teach again at 1pm until 10, 11 pm as I said. I used to wake up 5 am to shower and eat and get ready, because otherwise, I knew I wasn't gonna have time to do it later on the day. I used to go to sleep at 1am (because I had lessons to prepare for the next day) and wake up at 5am. Had to deal with awful students (that were adults btw). Once, one even got shirtless at the class with the excuse that his house was too big and he was gonna be late if he got up to the second floor to get a shirt (it was online).

Also, the school didn't have enough teachers to the amount of students, they didn't hire anyone (probably bc they didn't want to spend money) and I had to deal with VERY, A LOT of rude people, all the time. Rude on words and rude as texting me at 6 am, 5 am, 3 am, 11 pm. CALLING me and can I be honest? it wasn't my fault, I couldn't do anything, because it wasn't me to used to hire people. I GENUINELY couldn't do anything to help them.

Then I quit, because I was having a mental breakdown, because I was having some dark thoughts and I thought I didn't have other way out. Also the salary. At first, was: 3,96 USD for 1 hour of class and 1,98 for 30 minutes. When I quit, they wanted to change the salary to: 3,36 for 1 hour, 1,68 for 30 minutes and 99 cent if the student didn't show up to the class and didn't tell in advance (and it happened A LOT). We were basically gonna work for free. One of the owners even told us: "you tell us the time you have free to work and we are going to fill your schedule up with students" (and no, it wasn't a good thing).

The classes were basically personalized to the students, because each one of them wanted something different. I can't explain better than this, but it was TIRING. We had to do our own lessons bc the school book was shit and also as I said above, deal with all kind of students. Nice ones, rude ones, the one that got shirtless besides being rude, was arrogant and narcissist. Once he even left me talking by myself in the middle of the class. He just left. Others thought that I didn't have anything else to do with my life or was a robot. Some were beginners and wanted to get fluent in like, 6 months, but without any effort on their part, just me (and if you speak another language as a second language, you know that's not how it works at all).

They told me I had to wait a month to get my payment (that was delayed for 3 months and 15 days, the money = 7000). I even had to stay one more week working there, because according to the owner "they didn't have teachers to pass my students to" (and they didn't honestly, but because they were awful).

Today it's been a month and I texted them. I wasn't the usuall nice and polite girl (I didn't curse them or anything), but I was firm that I wanted my money. I have debts because of it, I own people because of it and the owner told me I was being rude to her.

I don't know what to do. I can't sue them because I can't afford lawyers and idk. I was thinking about letting go, because I don't wanna get sued by them, idk, by saying something out of anger.

And honestly? The problem is not even the money, but the hours I spent working there. I couldn't go to a therapist, because I didn't have time (and money). I had to quit a college project because I didn't have time to go to the project (and I used to get paid at this project). I used to ask them to NOT put me students at a certain time because of the project, or classes or therapy and the bitch used to open my schedule and do it anyways and the excuse was always the same: "BUT YOUR AT A HIGHER POSITION, IT'S YOUR JOB TO ACCEPT THE STUDENTS" and I don't know what to do.

I don't have patience to be nice to them anymore and they asked me today to wait until monday (AGAIN), but at the same time I'm so tired. I know that if I text that bitch again, I'm gonna call her something and get fucked up.

And it's not just me, EVERYONE that used to work there are in the same situation.

And I said to my boss "I just want my money, I'm tired of it" and she told me: "if you're tired, get some rest" (and no, I'm not joking, she actually told me that).

What do you think I should do about it? Should I just let go, bc I don't think I'll ever see the money or should I do something.

I'm from Brazil and I wanted to become a tutor/teacher on Preply, however when I go to the website, it doesn't show the option to be a teacher, only to be a student and to find teachers, which is not what I want. What do I do?

Eu queria criar uma conta de professora, porém no site, pelo menos aqui no Brasil/pra mim, não mostra a opção de ser professora, a opção de criar conta como professora. Só acho a opção de aluna e para achar professores, que não é o que eu quero. Como que eu faço?

I don't know if that's the right term, but I'm gonna teach a sample class to a new student, so she can see how it works... And I have no idea how to do it.

At the english school I used to work at, the sample classes were basically to sell the fucking school, but they never taught us on how to do it properly.

Do you prepare a class or do you just get to know the student and their level and what they are looking for...? I used to do like the second one.

And if you prepare it, how do you do it?

I am an English teacher (I'm in graduation at the moment and work as a freelancer teacher. Also English is not my first language). I've worked at in-person English school and online English school. I love teaching intermediate and advanced students and I have lots of fun ideas, but beginners I have no idea how to teach.

1 - First of all, I don't know how to begin hahaha. Like, an order of subjects to teach. I don't know where to start.

2 - Beginners are very insecure and they usually prefer not to talk or not to engange with the activities and it becames a nightmare.

3 - Also, they have a very wrong idea (in my opinion) that it's only up to us. I had students who didn't think they had to make any effort or practice on their own, I was going to make a magic and they were going to become fluents in like, 3 months.

All that being said to ask for advices and help on how to teach beginners because I get very lost. How do you organize your classes. Thank you!!

I mean like. I am a 27 year-old woman, I am very very skinny. I weight 35kg and I am 1.55m tall (or in this case short haha). I've had sex before, but I started very late my sexual life because of my body and my insecurities. Because I'm very skinny, I don't have boobs (they're very very small), I have a small ass, but it's the biggest thing of my body and I can't get weight, even if I try it. But can I be honest, I don't wanna sound arrogant, but I don't find my face ugly. I'm not saying I'm pretty, but it's cute.

But still, men have sex with me and I don't understand how they find me attractive. I was hooking up with a guy who used to tell me that I was hot and compliment me all the time and we met at the club and he told that when I got into the party, he thought I was so pretty and I don't understand how, because I know what I look like. And I don't know how to shut those voices in my mind, saying I'm not enough, that even if a man finds my face pretty, they'll be turned off by my body, because I'm not hot.

If you're in a similar situation, how do you handle it?