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i was in a haram relationship for a year with him. we are both still school, muslim people with no support financially or halal wise. in the one year relationship, we spent 8 months trying to stop it due to the guilt and haram reasons. we got caught multiple times by our parents but despite that, we didn’t stop talking. we kept going on and on and on saying, “one more time!” or “one last convo and no more!” which never ended at that “one more time” loop. i think i’ve heard that line more than i’ve ever heard anything else in this dunya, seriously..

anyways, it was the both of us who were commiting haram and allowing the “one more time” to continue despite being educated about haram relationships and its severity in the hereafter and on the day of judgment with Allah SWT. we do go to the same school which is now extremely awkward since we know everything about each other. we cannot make it halal and get married right now.

he was such a nice person. no girls. 20 followers on insta. 10 followers on tiktok and is very to himself. he never spoke to another women before me. i was his first everything. we never committed the major zina but we did the minor zina for example touching, hugging, kissing on our face (not our lips) etc. he’s a nice young muslim man who takes care of himself but also has a very traumatic childhood and his life right now is.. not the best. he lost his mom a couple months ago this year and it’s been hard since.

but..his grades dropped tremendously. i mean, bad. real bad. he wasn’t like this before he met me or during our relationship together or even after his mother passed away he was never like this. he still had decent grades and never skipped class. now..ever since we broke up, he’s been skipping class, failing ALL his classes and not studying or doing any of the schoolwork.

i really don’t know what’s happening right now. i’m afraid that Allah SWT is going to let him hit rock bottom like this and never learn in time for marriage and that his grades are preventing us from getting married. (P.S. when we were together, i used to always help him and encourage him to do his school work. he’d only do it for me bc i said it, not bc HE wanted to). please let me know.

i was in a haram relationship for a year with him. we are both still school, muslim people with no support financially or halal wise. in the one year relationship, we spent 8 months trying to stop it due to the guilt and haram reasons. we got caught multiple times by our parents but despite that, we didn’t stop talking. we kept going on and on and on saying, “one more time!” or “one last convo and no more!” which never ended at that “one more time” loop. i think i’ve heard that line more than i’ve ever heard anything else in this dunya, seriously..

anyways, it was the both of us who were commiting haram and allowing the “one more time” to continue despite being educated about haram relationships and its severity in the hereafter and on the day of judgment with Allah SWT. we do go to the same school which is now extremely awkward since we know everything about each other. we cannot make it halal and get married right now.

he was such a nice person. no girls. 20 followers on insta. 10 followers on tiktok and is very to himself. he never spoke to another women before me. i was his first everything. we never committed the major zina but we did the minor zina for example touching, hugging, kissing on our face (not our lips) etc. he’s a nice young muslim man who takes care of himself but also has a very traumatic childhood and his life right now is.. not the best. he lost his mom a couple months ago this year and it’s been hard since.

but..his grades dropped tremendously. i mean, bad. real bad. he wasn’t like this before he met me or during our relationship together or even after his mother passed away he was never like this. he still had decent grades and never skipped class. now..ever since we broke up, he’s been skipping class, failing ALL his classes and not studying or doing any of the schoolwork.

i really don’t know what’s happening right now. i’m afraid that Allah SWT is going to let him hit rock bottom like this and never learn in time for marriage and that his grades are preventing us from getting married. (P.S. when we were together, i used to always help him and encourage him to do his school work. he’d only do it for me bc i said it, not bc HE wanted to). please let me know.