Update:
Thank you! This is really eye opening. I will happily know I am the AH because I was told wrong and the smell/feel was just not me (now that I know I can make some serious changes!) I have been told by multiple people this was a “me” issue and no one else can smell it/feel it. I actually thought it was JUST ME! I never could I understand how people had no issue with it so I assumed it was just me! This changes things.
My mother-in-law lives about three hours away. I have taken my daughter there multiple times and and sat in my car for the day because I am ultra sensitive to cigarette smoke and thick smells. She has numerous small dogs who are not house trained, so her house has a thick urine smell covered up by an air freshener smell. Her son also smokes heavily in the house. Needless to say every time I come down there I step about one step in the house and then I almost gag and I have to leave. (But I do try to stay)
My mother-in-law was recently in the hospital she got a diagnosis and she came home. My husband, for the first time in I don’t know how long wants to go down there and see his mom as a family. I will 100% support him, but I’m debating on if I’m gonna be able to go. It will look bad on me and make her feel bad if I’m not even able to stay in the house with them and I have to wait outside in my car for four hours. Would I be the asshole for asking not to go because there’s no way I can breathe?
Last time we went down as a family we stayed outside of the house. We took her shopping and stuff like that but this time she will be unable to leave the house so my options are limited.
Again thank you 🙏🏼