My boyfriend has cancer and wants a gun
Wild title I know, but that’s what it is. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years now. In January he was diagnosed with Lymphoma, he has 2 treatments now (he’s currently in 5 of 6) and we’ve been really strong. I love that man so much.
The issue is he’s been talking a lot lately how he wants to ge his gun license, okay cool. I’m all for it. What I’m not cool with is a gun being kept in the apartment. My style is standing firmly on this but also knowing he’s been fucking through it and deserves to live life how he wants with what he wants in his home. It just REALLY makes me uneasy.
My reasons are pretty clear
• we‘ve had issues with suicidal ideations in the first few years of us together. We were both assholes and made mistakes but what came from that was at one point really scary. I don’t want to go into further detail about this.
• I had a gun held to my head in my teens when I put myself un stupid situations. I make a lot of jokes about a lot of things in my life and durning my teen years because those times were wild and all you can do it laugh. most importantly is I’m ok, I’ve healed and I don’t get myself into that shit and haven’t in a very long time.
•my uncle was murdered at 24 in front of my brother by his “friend” a year before I was born
I myself with nothing of this related went through some serious trauma a few years ago and legally still in the middle of that I’m very much and try to be in control of what and who is around me. if it dowsnt feel good I’m not fucking there.
my heads a mess because I want To support and be there for him 100%. I also don’t want to fight or make things tense.
do I just shut up for right now?