Hello, I’m looking for advice on dating someone who has IIH and is currently in the process of applying for disability because they’re unable to work. I also have an autoimmune condition, so I understand some of the challenges like adjusting work hours or relying on FMLA but I really want to grow in how I support him. We are newly dating but I can tell there’s a chance this is going to be serious.
We’ve just started dating. I care about being thoughtful, patient, and understanding of his limitations while still building a healthy relationship. I know our experiences aren’t exactly the same, and I have a lot to learn. Especially since he’s been through a lot. He’s shared that he avoided dating for years because of how others treated him due to his condition. Especially woman when they heard the “unable to work” and it made him insecure about dating. He’s a sweet guy and I just want to be genuinely helpful and understanding.
I’d really appreciate advice on a few things:
•Good date ideas that are considerate of energy levels and health limitations
•How to best support someone during the disability application process
•Ways to show up well on both good days and difficult ones
•What kinds of support or gestures tend to mean the most in situations like this
Any insight or personal experiences would truly mean a lot. I know it’s not much but any and all advice would be appreciated. Thank you! 😊