I (17M) don't eat with my parents and siblings anymore. I was 13 the last time we sat down for dinner or lunch at the same time. Even for breakfast I wake up extra early every morning to make sure I have my breakfast before anyone is up so I can eat alone. I skip lunch completely if everyone is home and there's no school and dinner I'll wait until everyone is busy and either have an early or a very late dinner.
The reason I started doing that is my family are gross to eat with. My younger siblings spit at the table and spit out food everywhere. They'll throw salt over people's dinners or steal off people's plates. Oh and they stick some foods up their nose and throw it onto other plates. Like breadsticks or carrot sticks or fries. They're also generally loud and will say when stuff is gross even if eating somewhere else. One time we were in a nice restaurant for my mom's birthday and one of my brothers said it tasted like our dog's stinky shits when he's sick and he yelled that for everyone to hear it and he repeated himself.
My dad is gross too and he'll open his mouth to show off all the chewed food and sometimes he makes noises and it causes him to let some fall out of his mouth and then he'll be hacking up a lung. He also gets foods that make him fart a lot and he stinks. He does it because he finds it funny and when I was younger I used to except for the smell. But now it's embarrassing because people have complained about the stink before.
My mom's a loud chewer which is the least big issue, and isn't really her fault. but she also acts like everything is fine with the way dad and my siblings act. My siblings antics got us banned from a couple of local restaurants and we got banned from a third place while on vacation a few years ago. My siblings are not allowed to eat at their friends houses and the parents of their friends do not want them to eat out together ever. I heard complaints about how disgusting my siblings are and my mom was ready to fight those people.
Back when I started refusing to eat with them my parents tried to force it but I told them I'd just skip meals completely and they gave in. Since then I just don't and the problem now is there have been 5 back to back family dinners with extended family in restaurants and I have skipped them all because I refuse to eat with my parents and siblings. I know one ended badly because of my dad and siblings but I'm not sure about others. My parents told me it's weird that I'm missing family time over this.
But I can't stand to eat with them again. AITAH?