u/EmbarrassedCat7062

The story is really long. 4 years too long actually. But I was in an abusive relationship with my child’s father. I never pressed charges or filed a report regarding the abuse, I only filed a Protection from abuse order with my local court (Pennsylvania). The statute of limitations is not up on the incidents that I would be filing a report about but it was about 2 years ago. I’ve had an active PFA since I finally decided enough was enough but now the pfa has expired. I’m wanting to file the report and hopefully press charges but I’m worried it could affect my custody case if no conviction is made. I wouldn’t say I have a lack of evidence, I do have a couple photos of myself shortly after incidents with visible injuries. But I don’t have any evidence that the attacks were sexual other than the documentation associated with the pfa. This includes my original claims, my testimony (to which his lawyer did not object) and his agreement to said pfa.

A separate but related (only by defendant) report I have recently filed was because my (4yo) child was left unsupervised with access to explicit material. They watched their father’s home made sex tape while left alone, no charges were filed by the local police and general protection services said the incident was “elikely accidental”.

That being said I’m worried that filing these two things within 2 months of eachother could make it look bad in custody court and or criminal court if that’s pursued.

The reality is that my safety net of a pfa is now expired and I am terrified he’s going to come back with a vengeance.

I guess my questions are as follows:

1. How strong is my evidence? Is sworn testimony and a previously granted pfa enough to warrant pressing charges? Does the defendant not objecting to the claim in court carry any weight?

2. Could this impact my custody case and how?

3. Is the timing of this damning to me in court? Ie looking suspicious or illegitimate?

Thanks in advance, sorry for how long it is.

I (26f) and my bf (26m) have been together for almost 2 years now, living together for 1. And now at 26 years old he’s decided to enlist in the army. I’m fully supportive of his decision because he truly believes it will better himself but… I have a child from a previous relationship and the likely hood of me being able to follow him wherever he gets stationed is extremely low. I feel like he chose army over me.

Now we’ve decided that while he’s away training for the year (btc and Ait) I would do my best to figure out a way to make this work. To be completely fair my child’s father doesn’t necessarily deserve the custody that he has that’s an entire different topic, but it’s proven in court, and there’s there is reasons for me to have sole custody, regardless of moving with my boyfriend the only stressor this puts on my custody battle is timeline.

Now it’s the week before he leaves and he chose to spend that time with his family for the most part so he said goodbye to my daughter this past weekend when she went to her dad‘s and he said bye to me today with the possibility of coming back when my daughter is at her midweek overnight with her father, as to not re-enter her life just to leave again.

So today he took the rest of his stuff from my house and left to go be with his family and now because he’s with his family and he’s spending time with them. He’s not really answering his phone too much and I am so sad. I feel lonely, even though he’s 30 minutes away, and I don’t know how I’m going to deal with not hearing from him during basic let alone not being able to see him more than maybe twice in the next year. I’m also having a hard time with my child because she’s sad that she’s four so she doesn’t quite understand what’s happening so it’s involving a lot of conversations between me and her where I just have to keep repeating my reality at the moment and I’m hitting a breaking point.