No one in my family but my older sister acknowledges my brother (23M) was being a jerk. I (17F) needed a ride to a meeting. I don’t have my license and it sucks. We were having a normal boring time when I realized my phone was almost dead. He freaked out and was like, “how is your phone almost dead when you’ve been home all day?” I said I didn’t know as my phone had been on the charger for most of the day. He went on for 5/10 minutes about my stupid phone and finally gave me the charger. His car is weird. It’s a TRD Toyota (so newer I think) but the cord controls whose phone is hooked up to the car, not Bluetooth. So he was like, “play music.” No please or anything.
I played My Chemical Romance because of all the songs on my Spotify, I thought that would be the better option and he called my music taste “trash”. I said, “well I like it.” And he said, “Yeah, like any stereotypical white teenaged girl” and it pissed me off. I quit talking to him. He asked, “why couldn’t Lilly drive you?” (My friend bailed on driving me because she picked up a shift) and I just ignored him because \~silence is better than violence\~ and he got mad. He kept saying it and I ignored him. He said, “I’ll turn this car around” not my dad, mind you. I ignored him because he was bluffing. He started to bash my friend saying, “well I’ll just assume it’s because she’s a bad friend because she IS a bad friend.” I just smiled because his attempt at rage bait was pathetic.
He said. “You’re turning into her. Turing isn’t a little mean girl. Your voice eve changes when you’re on the phone with her.”, “she’s dumb, and you’re not but you’re turning into her.” I finally said, “you never try to talk to me, and I don’t have to talk to you.” And he said, “yeah because you’re a little brat and I don’t like talking to you because you’re nasty whenever I talk to you.” I said, “I’M nasty? You just called my music taste trash and bashed my friend.” And he said, “because it is trash and I thought it was funny.” I said, “just because you think it’s funny doesn’t mean it has to be said. Do you think your screamo music isn’t stereotypical for a white guy in his twenties?”
And then he brought up the phone thing again. I said, “your phone batter has NEVER been low when you left the house?” And he said no. I said not even when you were my age? And he said no. He said, “well why couldn’t Lilly drive you?” And I said, “I’m not telling you because you were being mean. You don’t get to know details when you’re being nasty.” And he said, “I’m being nice now.”
Written down doesn’t involve tones, but he talks down to me. I don’t know. Maybe I am the problem. My sister didn’t say much but my mom told me I should’ve just been normal and not given him a reaction. I told her sometimes silence is best but she was arguing with me because he’s the golden child. AITA?