I'm 31F.
Been married for almost two years, we live in Bangalore, not with our in laws and I'm married into a good family.
My husband was my friend first, and we fell in love and lived together and then got married. No complaints there.
I have a good career in tech as an engineer and I love my job! Although money is a definitely one reason, I love solving puzzles and I see coding and my job exactly like that.
I have had a good childhood, not very pampered, not very harsh, just enough i believe to teach me the value of money and the reward of pampering myself once in a while.
I journal, a lot.
Not the decorative kind, but the kind with a notebook filled with black inked thoughts. And I'm very honest in my journals.
Lately I have realised though that I am starting to get quite bitter.
My work gives me joy, but no one in my family or at my in laws understand what i do. Neither does my husband. (He works in marketing)
I love to cook, but these days it feels like I expect praise for cooking on my days off for the family. It's the same with chores too.
My husband and I both write, (on instagram and subsyack, different mediums, and languages, Hindi and English respectively.) and while both the families know this, he gets all the praise and people rarely seem to understand or even know that I do write, even if erratically.
All I'm talking about or thinking about is how I have no help, no validation (I don't know why i need validation for cooking, something im actually good at and love!), no recognition at work, or otherwise.
I tried talking to my husband and he doesn't seem to understand my side of things some days.
I would love a woman's perspective and would really appreciate some advice on how to not be this bitter.
I don't want to be like this.