So I’ve know my soon to be ex wife for a total of 10 yrs. 5 yrs dating got married in 2020 separated in 2024 and since then we’ve been cordial. She got her own place back in Nov and I’ve been helping her financially here and there. I let her get a washer and dryer in my name (she paying for it) and I also added her to my car insurance policy that I got after we separated. I still love her but there are no plans to reconcile. Anytime I visit her state I stay with her I make sure that I contribute financially cause I don’t want to add any burdens to her already stressful financial situation. During the time we’re apart she calls me every day and we usually fall asleep on the phone. I’ll walk her out in the morning for work to make sure she get to her car safely and we’ve been repeating that cycle for the past 5-6 months atleast.
We recently made plans to go to a concert and it was
already discussed that I would stay with her that weekend. I was also gone to make a repair to her car ( I paid $100 for the car part). 3 weeks before the concert I notice I rarely heard from her no calls or text except for a call during her work shift when she asked if she could borrow $300 to pay her phone bill cause her phone just got cut off. I didn’t really have time to think about it but I agreed cause I was thinking about her safety and I know she doesn’t have anyone to help her out.
The day before the concert she asked me where I was staying caught off guard by her question I told her I would stay at nearby hotel. I assumed by the question she didn’t want me to stay cause any other time she would offer. Since her energy was already off the past couple of weeks I didn’t want to press the issue. So I booked the hotel. Day of the concert I get to her house (she knew I was on the way) she asked me to come up and help her with her shoe.
I get upstairs and she’s on the phone.. my heart immediately dropped. I could tell she was on the phone with a new love interest which she later confirmed. With a heavy heart I still went through with the concert and we had an awesome night. Afterward she completely switch up on me again. She no longer wanted me to repair her car. She stopped answering my calls and I was stuck. I sat at the hotel all weekend stunned because we had this weekend planned and at no point did she mention to me that things changed. I had to find out when I got there. She didn’t pay me my money back for paying her phone bill and I felt like a total fool for funding her and she didn’t have enough respect for me to end the call before I got there. I want to end all communication and with her. Her still being on the insurance limits my ability to do that. The insurance just renewed this month and ends in Nov I was originally gonna allow her to stay until then but why should I show her that grace when she didn’t show me any. I’m out of $500 because of her selfish actions. I’m pissed but I also don’t want to act out of emotion. AITA?
Edit: Its car insurance not health insurance