At what point is ADHD your responsibility in relationships vs a disability/condition?
Hello, ive been recently diagnosed (24F) with combined ADHD. taking elvanse 50mg and it changed my life from actually being able to live it. But some stuff still persist that are fine to manage myself but in romantic relationships it feels impossible as ADHD feels like an excuse since online you always hear that "mental health is your responsibility to not have others bare it". I know adhd is a condition in your brain but some stuff persist like time blindness, RDS, overwhelm, needing time to recharge, masking constantly. These are much more difficult to manage in a relationship, especially when RSD shows up during a conversation or you get burnout from masking. Having a conversation with my partner just feels like and excuse that I have ADHD hence I react or shutdown. Im at the point where its exhausting and I dont want to be around them just incase my adhd makes it harder. They are super calm and nice, always respond with kindness. But the guilt is eating me away... having adhd is so difficult and even if it is considered a disability or a condition.. it is so hard to accept that and have others as well.
Any advice? Thanks!