u/EmberVale8

Hooking up for the first time as a woman in her 30s

So within the last week I decided I wanted to try hooking up for the first time on Tinder or Bumble and I have so many questions please help!

Do you give oral without condoms?

Is it ok to ask them if they can eat me out through the DMs first? I want them to but I also feel like it's hard for me to concentrate when it happens and feel bad that they're down there working so hard lol but I still want to try it.

If I give oral how long should I be down there for?

I'm not very experienced is this something I should tell them?

I don't like to shave so should I let them know beforehand that I'm trimmed?

I kind of just want to be a pillow princess and not do anything during sex should I let them know this beforehand?

Do I ask them if they've gotten tested and should I expect proof and should they expect that of me?

I want to bring a vibrator/lube is that something I should let them know beforehand or is that weird?

When you've decided on a time do you show up on time or a little late?

What do I do if they stink oh god I am worried about this one. Should I ask them to shower beforehand? I feel like that should be a given but maybe it's not lol

I have acne scars on my body and I'm a little self conscious about it especially if we do doggy because there's quite a few on my back. Should I warn them about these scars ahead of time?

How should I let them know that I don't wanna do dates I just want to have sex? Should I put that in my profile if so how should I word it without sounding... mean idk lol?

Is it common to find a FWB from hookups? Also is a FWB just for sex or do you guys actually hang out too? I probably would never ask anyone this but maybe if someone asked me I would go along with it.

Thanks for your help!

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u/EmberVale8 — 16 hours ago