r/Sex_Positivity

I’m asking this question since my primary partner is saying I gave them a UTI after having sex with a secondary partner. There was roughly 24-48 hours before I had sex with my primary partner again, I had showered 1-2 times in that time frame and I pee after sex and through out the day. To my knowledge with good hygiene and peeing that no bacteria would have been in my urethra or on my skin that could cause a UTI through sex.

So far my google research concurs this but she also made mention that a nurse or doctor (can’t remember) said that this is what probably caused it. I still think other factors such as her hygiene, clothing, her potentially not peeing after sex, or even susceptibility to UTIs could have been the actual factor.

I also know that it takes a minimum of 24-48 hours before symptoms of a UTI begin to show.

So within the last week I decided I wanted to try hooking up for the first time on Tinder or Bumble and I have so many questions please help!

Do you give oral without condoms?

Is it ok to ask them if they can eat me out through the DMs first? I want them to but I also feel like it's hard for me to concentrate when it happens and feel bad that they're down there working so hard lol but I still want to try it.

If I give oral how long should I be down there for?

I'm not very experienced is this something I should tell them?

I don't like to shave so should I let them know beforehand that I'm trimmed?

I kind of just want to be a pillow princess and not do anything during sex should I let them know this beforehand?

Do I ask them if they've gotten tested and should I expect proof and should they expect that of me?

I want to bring a vibrator/lube is that something I should let them know beforehand or is that weird?

When you've decided on a time do you show up on time or a little late?

What do I do if they stink oh god I am worried about this one. Should I ask them to shower beforehand? I feel like that should be a given but maybe it's not lol

I have acne scars on my body and I'm a little self conscious about it especially if we do doggy because there's quite a few on my back. Should I warn them about these scars ahead of time?

How should I let them know that I don't wanna do dates I just want to have sex? Should I put that in my profile if so how should I word it without sounding... mean idk lol?

Is it common to find a FWB from hookups? Also is a FWB just for sex or do you guys actually hang out too? I probably would never ask anyone this but maybe if someone asked me I would go along with it.

Thanks for your help!

I am married female in my 20s and hubby confessed to me that he wanted to see me with another man. At first I was taken back but after further discussions I’ve become curious. However, we are both active LDS members and we are sure the folks at the temple would not like it if they wound out we were doing stuff like this. How does someone navigate this position without being “found out?” Woudl love to chat with other couples or husbands or wives about this.

The last few women Ive slept with told me it took long for me to orgasm. Is this an issue for anyone else? If so what did you do about it?

I am in my mid 50’s. Head over heels in love with a guy 13 years younger. We both enjoy our playtime in all its forms. To be brutally honest I haven’t ever had someone who cared about my needs in the bedroom like he does.

Here’s the thing - he growled at me and it caused me to orgasm. It causes me to orgasm every time he does it - no matter where we are - my body instantly responds.

I have had other men growl at me and not had this kind of response. Has anyone else had this happen to them? I am feeling really weird and completely out of control of my body.

I was born with two separate openings at the tip of my penis. Only one of them actually functions as a urethra and is used for urination; the other appears to be a non-functional secondary opening. I’ve never had any difficulty peeing, maintaining a stream, or dealing with infections or other urinary problems related to this.

The condition has never caused me any physical issues or discomfort, but I still have some questions about it and would appreciate any insights from people who might have seen something similar or know more about this?

Would you be ok with it?

Idk whether it could be called a kink or not, but I've noticed that I get horny from "new" and unconventional things. It can be as mundane as wearing socks while showering or shaving "downstairs" while sitting the wrong way around on the toilet seat. I also used to like the idea of having sex in the woods or in secondary school I had thoughts of pleasing myself in the "wrong" sex bathroom.

However, after I try interests like that once or twice, it no longer turns me on... What is this interest/kink that I have? Does it have a name? How can I explore it more?

truth is, ive never fully truely felt a genuine connection with anyone irl before, what does romantic sex and emotional connection look like for real despite fantasies ive had?

the fantasies ive had are kinda cleshay generic, romantic bath with candles rosepedals, maybe some soft jaz music, mixed in with some deeply romantic sensual intimacy going slow and gentle mixed in with screams of passion and love and the emotional connection side of things being for me at least, someone who is chilled laid back and very funny and genuinely a loving person who loves for the sake of loving and is a meance but in the way that turns me on and drives me nuts at 23. ive also fantasied about getting married and adopting kids into my 30's and having flowers poured all over me and lovingly kissed everywhere. i really wanna be caressed and held and told that im sexy and during the emotional build up i wanna honestly get to know the soul of the person im with and genuinely bond so hard that the souls fuse and im really into nature. one of my biggest fantasies if it ever was able to be possible at a nude beach would be to take my partner and make love to them in the ocean\a lake. at this point idc if my partner is nonbinary\a trans guy\femboy\trans woman\ i will love anyone. i just don't really know what im doing with all this but this has been sitting in my mind a lot lately.

I am mid 30s f and around 300 lbs. I have a fwb who is mid 30s m and probably pretty close to 400 lbs, but I’m not sure of his exact weight. The last time we tried to hook up, I had trouble getting him in. We had it for a second but he quickly popped out. There isn’t much to work with.

I am kind of used to being a pillow princess. In my past relationships usually my partner would do a lot of the work. I don’t think that will be the case here. I don’t mind to do the work, but I am so self conscious and out of my element. I am the biggest i have ever been in my life right now and felt so self conscious when I was trying to get it in but my stomach and his were getting in the way. I tried flipping around and also tried to get him to try doggy but nothing worked.

I enjoy spending time with this friend and would really like to figure this out. I am appreciative of any advice. And yes I plan to talk with him the next time we get together so we can figure it out. However I like to be prepared and would appreciate some advice from strangers

Good afternoon everyone, I hope everyone is having a great day. I'll cut to the point. My girlfriend and I have pretty rough sex usually on the weekends. Being rough as in fast,deep thrusts, multiple rounds, etc etc. I wouldn't say my dick is like huge or anything but the next day she is usually in pain. We think it's bruising because there isn't any blood to go with it when we are having sex, and she's okay while we are having sex just the day after is rough for her. Is there anything we can do to either prevent this, or help her recover the next day? We both agree sex once a weekend is nice but yearn for more lol.

Thank you!!