u/Emberkai

My story I'll say we never exchanged ages because I am big on ambition,  goals, and effort heading in the right direction.  I am female 31 . I personally was quick to achieve my degrees and career at my age but ....A few years ago I kept seeing this guy everywhere I went comic cons, random gyms, and just places of interests I like to go . I thought we'll if I never say hi I'll never know if it's something or not. I said hello at a gaming bar and told him I see him everywhere and if he doesn't have his naruto headband on then he looks different. He started returning to the bar with it on . I stopped coming.  I ran into him at the gym and gave a casual hello . He literally told another girl that she needed to go to talk to me . When the conversation ended he said exactly where he'd be and watch me from a distance.  Everytime id go to the gym we'd talk and he'd tell me where he'd watch me from. He'd wait on me and tell someone else to go away so we could talk . Even though that went on for months we never exchanged names . I stopped coming on days to meet him months past. He approached me when I did come back to ask where were you? I thought okay maybe this is something I properly introduced myself .   I started becoming invested in flirting back . Sometimes he'd give long stares and smiles and I'd have to tell him to go away . He said he was studying and  I told him I'd pray for you . He said he'd pray for me too . He said he passed I said I was proud of you....later he said he was proud of my career too . He told me randomly he is stimulated by attraction by the person's personality/work ethic.... He even mentioned re dying his hair color to green and I said if you change it we will no longer match . He came in the next time with it the same color as mine. He'd hunt for me in the gym til finally the conversation came up about why i never returned to the bar which was because of creeps. I said if you ever go back to that bar I'll go only if you go. He invited me but for some reason emphasized I bring a friend . So I encouraged we exchanged socials so I could support him in his cosplaying/health fitness and school journey and keep in contact just in case he may not beable to come. I also mentioned the 18th of April according to a video my friend filmed last year is when we first met . He kept repeating the date when talking about my friend he dropped her name . I kept think how tf does he know her name. ...okay he's following my page detailed . The 18th arrives . It's like 830 the event starts at 9 . I get a message from him stating he still hasnt decided if he's coming or not . 9 no word no message maybe around 10 he responds im coming but im not staying long . ...hours past but I am seeing him post on social media pictures of Pokémon and I'm questioning everything . You have time for that but not to message me im here where are you? Around sometime after 1230 my friend bumps into him and he asks where am I.  She tells him and tells me . I go back into her area . He walks up and tells me i wanted to say hi so you couldnt say i didnt come and tells me how beautiful we look . I said wait how long have you been here . He says a few hours .....I said seriously! He said don't be rude to your friend your filming her . We can talk about ir later . He walked off with some guy talking . I went somewhere else . He comes over and says I better not lose the game and just leaves with some more randoms . I see he pops up one more time ....by then a couple of guys have already approached me ...even asked for my number . My friend and I see its after 2 am we leave.  He sees me again the following week at the gym and I let him have it . I set my standards and boundaries for disrespect and he was shaking and rubbing his hair . He was taken back literally when i told him someone asked for my number . When I said am I crazy to think someone asked me out to spend time with me he said no definitely not . I said when you invite someone you don't freaking post about Pokémon and not find them and spend time with them wtf. Maybe then I should have clarified his age but he apologized. A month past and I went on vacation we talked back in forth on instagram flirting . Good morning and good night texts . Just texting everyday....he was sick and watching my stories on my type of guy...one that chooses me everyday ...he messaged me while sick to tell me he's choosing to talk to me....he told me is it a crime to care outside of the gym.....so as of lately we haven't seen each other except a brief wave at the gym while I was on the treadmill a different day from our usual time. The energy was....lacking . I came on our usual time and wondered what happened . He told me if he's tired he's going to rest and thats just it . .....I told him you know when you type your vague in person you explain more and appear more interested but we haven't bumped into each other for a while in person.  I told him you do know I am flirting with you yes . He said yes I do know friend . I told him wait I feel like friends dont flirt with each other and when I do through text you don't respond . I told him well that would end right here . He said but are we not friends? I saod but it seems like your emphasizing it wouldnt go any further and I dont flirt with guy friends maybe you flirt with female friends idk. He said well we can be friends and not flirt . He said whats the solution . I told him well i feel like youre dismising my feelings . He read nothing and He started saying I am assuming and told me what the solution was . I said well I know what I want . He said he does too a friend and im cool to hang with and vibe with at the arcade bar....and he'd understand if I didn't want to in person. Me being me I told him the truth that I lay myself out on the line and this is your response ...then enjoy your cool vibe with someone else.. I hope you find someone who cares outside of the gym. I unfollowed him and I'm just taking a breather. Everytime I think I find potential or the one it's bs. As a woman that has achieved her career goals I keep running into guys afraid to date me because I have it and they don't know where to begin....but I never crap on where they are . I support it but they lie about where they work or get intimidated because I tell them what I won't tolerate. I'm back to being exhausted and not willing to trust anyone not even female friends everyone wants to take but not give . They want someone like me in their circle with the benefits but forget I got two fearless feet . I may be disappointed, cry, or feel hopeless because I still don't have the right circle but I try not to give up or settle . I just want one good man....and maybe at least one good friend. My longest friend claimed to schedule a trip with me then tried to rip me off from hundreds since they're older and almost 40 my family and I hoped they changed but behavioral wise since booking that trip their demenor was off acting like I did something to them when I bought the tickets... Not showing up when they said they would come to events or bringing someone else ...inviting her to attending things like the movies then recieving a response I'll attend it when I'm off .....having me wait for hours no explanation of why she's not showing up..or just coming back with a sleezy gross guy who always dumps her and tries to talk with me which was the main reason I never went back to the arcade bar or any resturants that served alcohol . My other one got jealous because we both entered a beauty pageant and I won my first time. I only entered because they said it would be fun doing it together . I feel I can't trust anyone but I want a family of my own one day. I have so much love to give . If only the right people would enter . My dad told me he's going to find a church and have me go and maybe I can find good people because they're out there somewhere . He claims the ones into the gaming/anime are weird but unless someone's in there 50s or older the chances of them being into that is high . My problem is when that's all they do and start to think it's real. The guy above started comparing certain things i said to his cosplays . ...but i thought we connected somethings i wouldnt say outloud he'd post etc and vice versa. My dad keeps telling me to not give up hope......but Atm it's been so many counterfeits I have had pure doubt the past months of good people. Dating wise I guess I know how it feels starting from the bottom but if a guy is willing to show he's working to get somewhere I'm all for it.. ...at least I was now...I'm thinking maybe I'm doing to much maybe my heart needs to be closed tighter and I hate that because what if it's a good person and I can no longer allow myself to open for trust . How do you hear God clearly to say yup this is my person . Because I felt emotions I didn't have before with dude above and we never once went on a date so I thought it was something formulating before it even began . Please don't tear me up this conflict with the guy just happened last night .