r/Empaths

Sometimes , people can't get you maybe because your thought process is completely different. I just want people like me who have same level of understanding. And I don't have to try too hard to be understood.

Pour du contexte je suis jeune adulte donc évidemment je n’ai pas finis de mûrir tout comme mes amis de mon âge. J’ai conscience que je ne devrais pas m’attendre à une maturité émotionnelle poussé de la part de mes amis. Mais plus le temps passe plus ça me fatigue.

J’en ai marre de devoir être là personne qui communique et à qui on ne répond pas. Plusieurs de mes amis ont des problèmes de colère et jalousie. J’ai beau les comprendre parfois j’ai moi aussi envie de m’énerver. Dès que que je m’énerve j’y réfléchis et je comprend les raison de pourquoi il/elle a réagis comme il a réagis donc au final je prend sur moi et je reste calme. Evidemment je pense que c’est la meilleur chose à faire mais ma colère ne disparaît pas. De plus que quand moi je m’efforce a rester calme et compréhensive je ne revois jamais le même traitement.

Ces situations m’arrive énormément et plus le temps passe plus j’ai envie de m’énerver d’être aggressif comme eux.

After surviving and leaving a narcissistic marriage and over all these years of not setting boundaries around people, allowing red flags and toxic behaviour from partners, family, friends, I am finally on my path of spiritual awakening. And I can feel it, I am more intuitive now, very self aware, wise and ALONE. Nobody can understand this feeling unless they go through it themselves.

I kinda miss bonding with people, I used to be extremely social and had a lot of friends. Now I can barely relate with the 2-3 friends that have been with me since the past 10-12 years. I do not enjoy going out for drinks, I do not like the crowd being loud, it feels negative and damaging for my mental health. My old friends have barely had any character development all these years.

I also feel more inclined towards people who are more into fitness, spirituality, embracing their culture, healthy habits. I enjoy deep talks about life, traumas, experiences, history. Surface level conversations give me the ick.

So basically I am scared that all this is making me lonely and I am not able to connect with my old friends and making new connections are becoming tougher unless they are on a similar path as me. It can get lonely sometimes but I rather be alone than being around a friend /partner that dulls my spark and has not changed (for good) all these years. I cannot people please anymore.

Anybody gets this feeling or is it just me?

And it's concluded that I'm "The Challenger".

The results of the Test.

Really? That I didn't expect that...

And then I have to consider that on a scale from 1 - 20 when it comes to Caretaking other people, it's ranked at 20.

The caretaking results of the test.

If anyone wants to take a stab at the lesser Types that act in conjunction to the type 8 -- feel free.

Hi. I'm looking for empaths who have some life under their belt. I'm pretty young (22), but I've only felt things harder as I've gotten older.

Recently the weight of some things is just very very heavy.

I'm just wondering... How? How do you balance this weight. How do you live life day to day and stay happy with all of this heaviness?

This is silly but I feel very strongly for animals, specifically cats. My mom offhandedly mentioned that she's worried someone might be being mean to a neighborhood cat because he's been skittish. I just can't let that go. I feel so so sad for him and I want him to be okay.

I'm sorry I'm just emotional. I feel this way often about situations regarding people, animals, etc.

If you've been living as an empath for awhile ... How do you not become sad and miserable?

So my lecturer made me cry today for the first time in these 3 years of university~ I'm someone who is cries really easily and I grew up being quite embarrassed of it; I got it from my grandma. But part of me feels like it can be a strength in its own way; isn't it kinda beautiful to feel others' emotions as my own? I feel like it should be a superpower. A long time ago I decided that I would be defender of the weak and downtrodden, only for life to throw me a curveball and for me to end up being the "weak". Funny how life does that. Well, fortunately, I've the foresight to realise that it isn't a good idea to publicly post my whole history on here but if you can relate, feel free to message me if you wanna be friends. I'm F25, feel more comfortable being friends with fellow girls. God bless!

Any other empaths feeling like we're in the 'final stages of decay/decline', for lack of a better description?

The sense I get, which has grown stronger and more articulate over time, is that it doesn't actually get better from here - instead there's just 'collapse'

To be clear, I'm speaking less of politics or world events, and more of this emotional sense of, or growing realization that, our system is falling apart system because it just doesn't work.

Hi everyone,

I’m a man in my mid-30s who has done a lot of inner work over the past year. Interestingly, I didn’t really take a spiritual approach to healing. Mine was mostly scientific/Western.

But through that process, I’ve noticed that my intuition about people has become significantly stronger. I’ve even written down some of my intuitions before knowing the outcome, and I’d say around 8/10 times my read of the situation has eventually turned out to be accurate.

So I have a serious question for people who experience strong intuition: How do you manage the urge to tell someone what you sense when they seem unwilling or unable to acknowledge it themselves?

For example, say you shared with a friend that you’ve been struggling with loneliness. She repeatedly encourages you to go out with her and frames it as her helping you because you’re lonely.

But intuitively, you sense that she is quite lonely herself and also needs your companionship, yet she isn't comfortable acknowledging that vulnerability. Instead, the dynamic continues to be framed as though she is doing this primarily for you.

You don't resent her for needing companionship. You actually understand it. What bothers you is the feeling that you can see the unspoken truth of the dynamic while having to pretend you don't.

Would you call it out?

Would you simply recognize it internally and play along?

Or is part of developing intuition learning when NOT to tell people what you see?

How would you, as empaths,would you go about finding a soulmate, a life partner who truly understands you, shares your values, and someone you can marry?

Hai, this video talks about an aspect of how the narcissistic spirit thinks, specifically how they process empathy, this might help a little when it comes to forgiveness or detachment when interacting with them, alright bye yall, love 🤍This is spiritual, but it’s applies in general if you are just an empathetic individual

I just read about a senior dog in my town that lost her owner because they unexpectedly died. Now I can’t stop obsessing over how much pain that dog must be in, even worse, she can’t understand it.

That poor, poor dog. She has to be so confused and feeling abandoned. It makes me sick to my stomach. Sometimes I’d rather not exist at all than to bear this pain.

I’ve been on a trip for 10 days and will be home tomorrow. I know travel disrupts a lot. And I know it’s probably making it harder for me to regulate. I’m also on my period, without my dog who supports me (she’s at home, not dead)

But I just feel like absolute shit and just do NOT want to feel this right now.

I often find myself making decisions based on what people around me want , rather than what I myself want , I want to make others happy but I often do it at the expense of my own thoughts and feelings what do I do , any help ?

There is a person I’ve known for over 15 years who, while being a fairly good person, causes me great physical pain. Energetically when I’m in the presence of this person over a short period of time I feel heavy density on whatever side of my body they’re on while we’re in conversation. There was once about five years ago that we went out to dinner, and this person kept talking about themselves and bragging, and being very boastful about their accomplishments, and by the end of the night all of the muscles in my body felt like they’d atrophied. It took 3 whole days for me to release the tension from my body after spending time with this person.

Today, fate would have it that we are part of the same project for work. Again, I had the same calcifying sensation on the left side of my body, where she was seated and speaking very loudly and gesticulating wildly. Again, she’s not a bad person, but I’m trying to understand if this is an entity attachment coming from her directed at me, or simply me just absorbing her energy. I’ve tried cleansing rituals afterwards, but she has a very resistant spirit that is difficult for me to release. As a matter of fact, right now, it’s about 2 o’clock in the morning and I can’t sleep and I know it has something to do with her. What do I do? Has anybody ever had to navigate something like this? What are stronger release rituals for resistant spiritual energy like this? Also, what means of physical and spiritual protection do I need to avoid this in the future? She’s very much a part of my community, so I’m constantly having to be in contact with her, but my spirit just can’t handle it…

Sometimes there’s a particular cousin everyone in the family talks about like they’re amazing, or someone I’ve only seen through social media and their posts. Before I’ve even met them, I’ve already created this whole persona of them in my head how they are, how they talk, what they’re like, etc. Then when I finally meet them in real life, especially if everything I’ve heard or seen is about how successful or great they are, I feel intimidated.

I put them on a pedestal, somehow convince myself I’m lesser than them, and then end up not being myself around them at all. How do I stop doing this?

I am a 52 male for context. I have always been "emotional" as my parents called it, definitely got it from my mom and passed it down to my son. I am so tired of tearing up at the worst possible times over things I don't fully understand. I am new to the empath discussion, so not sure if there is a specific type or what the name for it is, but I am sick of it. Its really embarrassing when you are in an interview or some business function and I am seemingly absorbing the emotions from people and I start to tear up and have to visibly wipe my eyes and then the red eyes, questions... bleh. The interview is a prime example.. how can i start to literally cry just talking to someone about my accomplishments, education, experiences? I am tired of blaming the AC or overhead lights, allergies.. its exhausting.

I am single and going on dates and having the same thing happen throws the whole vibe off. I really don't think a woman wants to see a grown man crying on a first date when talking about stuff to get to know each other.

Put me in a movie and forget about it. Watching the last Spiderman movie.. i had to get extra napkins because I knew what would happen. I can't watch the videos where military folks surprise their kids or even when famous people surprise fans, I am tearing up now just writing it.

Is there anything I can do to control it for the life circumstances where its not appropriate or beneficial to appear so emotional?

Finding this sub and a group to commensurate with will be helpful.