AITA for going off on my partner for not being a partner?
I (26F) and my partner (36M) have been together for about 4 years. We have a son who’s only a year old. Since he’s been born my partner was very helpful and constantly being with me to help with him and making sure I don’t lose my sanity.
Here recently I. The past few months he’s barely been around to help. He’s constantly working outside or running errands for everybody else. Now I don’t drive for personal reasons. So this very much sucks when he’s the only way I’m able to get out of the house. Whenever he gets home from work anymore he’s barely been here emotionally or physically.
Now before any kinda nasty or rude comments start with this, lemme clear the air on some stuff. For the past 4 years I am the main one doing everything in the house. Dishes, laundry, cleaning, tending to our dogs and cats as well as being the only one to mainly figure out what to make for breakfast lunch or dinner.
After 4 1/2 years of just keeping my head down and doing the normal stuff. But since our son has been able to crawl and walk on his own my partner basically clocked out. He stopped helping with laundry, dishes, or cleaning. He stopped picking up after himself and leaves it to me. I had enough and about 3weeks ago I went off on him. Saying how I’m tired of being stuck in the house and being the only one to do anything in the house. The only response he could give was that he was tired and didn’t wanna work after work. But what he does realize this is driving me to further madness.
About a week ago I yelled at him again about the same thing plus how I just don’t feel seen anymore. Same thing he just said that he’s tired and how he’s been busy trying to get things done. And tried pointing out how instead of gaming with my friends after our son goes to bed, I can help do some more stuff around the house to help keep it clean. Which I ignore.
The issue is he’s working on things constantly or he’s inside with us but isn’t actually there and is trapped into his phone. I’ve been trying for months to get him to go back to the loving helping partner he used to be but I genuinely don’t know what to do or why this has happened. So AITA for going off on my partner when he’s not being a partner?