I have been seeing many people talking about not having friends, or at least friends they feel a deeper connection to. I’m just very curious to see why that is. I didn’t realize how many people do not have friends or friends they are close to.
Many people feel a romantic relationship would resolve the loneliness. Many people rely on just having their significant other. Where is the rest of their community? Is it the lack of community or lack of close friends that creates this loneliness?
What is stopping them or preventing them from forming these deeper connections? Is it the lack of opportunity? Is it not being in tune with their own feelings and needs? Is it the expectation of what a close relationship with someone should look like?
I have seen people talking about not having any friends to invite to their weddings or not having people to share their feelings with. I have seen people talk about even unhealthy friendships where someone is jealous, emotionally absent, a user, etc…
Do people in general not meet at least one person they are deeply bonded to? Is it because they don’t know how to maintain relationships or are unable to?
Not all friendships should come with drama, people shouldn’t feel exhausted, stressed, or feel worse off after seeing their friends or feel that hanging out with them is a chore. But some people put up with it or maybe think that it is normal?
Doesn’t having these kinds of friends not leave space to make real friends? Or prevent them from forming these connections due to assumptions or prejudice or preconceived notions?
I have had no trouble making friends, more trouble to find good friends who are genuine. I have been lucky to have a couple of very close friends who I trust with my life and feel loved by and get to grow with.
I had to weed out many people sure, but I never had the issue of not making friends, just good friends. I have had the issue of staying friends with people just because of how long we were friends for no matter how uncomfortable it was or how horrible it made me feel.
Some people are okay with having friends who aren’t genuine people as long as they have them. Is it social media? Is it to seem like they are social people where they get to make posts and perform to others that they have friends?
I prefer a small knit group or a few individual friends. Massive friend groups can often cause loneliness or come with drama or the feeling of being left out. Is it FOMO? I am guessing it’s the idea of having people around you, but many still feel misunderstood, unvalued, or unseen.
I think people wouldn’t feel so much pressure to find a romantic relationship or settle for less if they have genuine connections and a strong community. They aren’t finding people from different stages and different aspects of their life?
Maybe I’m missing something. Sometimes I too feel like something is wrong with me for not having a big group of people to have get togethers with, a huge wedding party, or having their kids all grow up together. I think that is maybe from media and seeing large friend groups that are very close and grow together.
How many people feel that they have no real friends or any friends? What do you think is preventing this or creating an obstacle?