u/Emergency-Metal-4391

I’m from a culture where arranged introductions for marriage are common.

About a month ago, a friend of my cousin introduced me to a man (I’ll call him Jay) who lives in another country, so we’ve only been talking online.

From the start, he told my cousin he was interested in getting to know me for marriage purposes. Since then, we’ve spoken around 10 times in total.

When we do talk, the conversations feel easy and natural, and we seem to share similar values and lifestyles. However, between conversations, he rarely initiates contact or asks deeper questions, and the pace feels quite slow and passive from his side.

My cousin also mentioned that he may be planning to visit my country to get to know me better, but he hasn’t communicated this directly to me, which makes it harder for me to understand where things stand.

I recently came out of a difficult, avoidant relationship, so I’m trying to be careful not to misread situations or project past experiences onto this one.

I’m looking for advice on how to navigate this stage of getting to know someone in a long-distance, marriage-introduction context where communication is inconsistent. Specifically:

How to approach this without making things uncomfortable

What a reasonable communication pace looks like in this type of setup