Marriage problems
I think I just need somewhere to write this down and I don't know where, My wife and I have been together for close to 12 years now, and it's had ups and downs, but lately it's been all downs.
She was abused, severely, by her step dad and her mom, and her family kinda didn't take sides, when we first started talking I thought they were racist, I'm American Indian/Mexican mix, she's white, turns out that wasn't it at all, they were in a relationship, is what she said, he had been using her for things for years and I guess she thought there was no way out, when I found out I asked her to move in with me or I was done with the whole thing, she ended up moving in and it was rough, I had just lost a Daughter and a marriage not even six months prior and wasn't ready for that, but she needed to get away from it all.
We ended up together everyday since, and it's gotten to the point where at least once a week she pushes me away, she won't talk to me or touch me or anything. And she gets so mad at me sometimes and I don't know why, and she ignores me. And is straight up abusive at times.
I went through similar trauma as a child, my mother used me as currency to get illicit substances for years. So I know about trauma and PTSD and CPTSD, and I know everyone is different with time and such.
But we've been together twelve years and she still makes me feel like trash that I'm worthless. I keep trying and she says she doesn't mean to but dang I'm tired. I don't know what else to do. She said there at the end he was abusing her about once a week and that about how often we blow up.
I really don't know what else to do or say.