R33 Irrepairable 😭
I’m writing because my ex partner bought a skyline R33 from a seller in Melbourne, $25k. He was told that it just needs a few fixes to be roadworthy, but 6 months later he was told it’s irrepairable.
He wasn’t told about the chassis being damaged, and when he first found out 4-5 months ago he took it on the chin and said he will get it fixed, that it’s okay and he’s learning. He worked his ass off to get the car, like most people do, but he had just finished 6 whole years of looking after me full time when I fell into bad mental health and agoraphobia after my parents died.
I met him when I was 15, he was 16, on CSGO. We were long distance, I was in Tasmania, he was in Victoria. When I turned 17 my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and my whole life turned upside down. I had no choice but to leave my friends and siblings behind and move in with him and his family.
When I tell you he was the most patient kid with me, I mean it. My mental health spiral wasn’t easy for either of us but he suffered just as much as me, if not more. I am getting better but I’m disabled and can’t work a normal job- so I’m starting my own business and he still supports me in every way while I do it. I am heartbroken for him.
This car wasn’t just a purchase goal, it was symbolic to the 6-7 years of mental health struggles we both faced. He cooked, cleaned, bathed me, took me to all my appointments, sat with me at hospital when I was trying to give up. He fell into his own spiral, which makes sense considering how much he was carrying for the both of us. He told me a year ago that he spent many nights in his deceased grandfathers car… literally contemplating his exit. While I dealt with those feelings my whole teen life, he was 24 telling me this and it felt heavier than anything I have ever experienced. He wanted to die.
I don’t know what exactly I am doing by posting this. I don’t know any of you and you all don’t know me. I’m just hoping someone has advice? The guys at the repair shop are so sweet and they really didnt want to tell him. It took them 3 days to call him and tell him the news about his car. I just got off the phone with him too, and he said to me “I’ll just take this as another life lesson”. 😭
What do I do to help… is there a legal route? I can offer artwork commissions in exchange for money, so if anyone’s interested please message me. All funds will go to him. I don’t know what else to do.