Am I being unfair?
Not sure if I am being unfair. I had a friend, a best friend, closer than a sister. I was also friends with her husband. We are all over 60. They got me through a very dark time in my life. I loved them both very much. About 4 1/2 years ago, her husband died. He was a wonderful person and like a big brother to me. I miss him very much. She naturally was overcome with grief. I gave her time and I left her alone for a bit. Since that time, I have invited her to my home, asked her out to lunch, sent her texts and cards and voice messages. She has not accepted any of my invitations. In February I had to have surgery, nothing serious but it hit me hard because I have been relatively healthy my whole life. I was feeling old and sad and in pain. I called and left her a message and told her I was struggling. She texted me and stated that she was sorry to hear that, she was not feeling well, and she would call me when she felt better. Nothing since then. I must admit that this hurt me. I love her oodles and I know that she loves me too, but I am wondering if I am expecting too much from her. I would be lost without my husband, so I get it. I would want to isolate for a while if I lost him. But it has been almost 5 years since he passed, and I guess I am wondering if I am expecting too much from her. Is this a friendship that has simply run its course? I know that most friendships are not forever friendships, but I really thought ours was. Am I being unfair?