I (M28) need help understanding my girlfriend (F27) of 2 years skinny dipping with coworkers. Do other gals agree?
Hi Everyone! Thanks for reading :)
My girlfriend and I work a traveling schedule, 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off across the country from one another, and share a rental home on our days off.
A few weeks ago, my girlfriend mentioned having a dream of being in a loving relationship with one of her new coworkers (also a woman, my gf is bisexual). I felt a bit weird about it since we haven’t been seeing each other much with this new-ish schedule (6months). She mentioned in the dream that it was a situation where I didn’t exist. We had a good talk about it and after I felt 95% relieved, just a lingering feeling of worry since she mentioned she’s not into her, the only reason being that the coworker has a boyfriend.
Tonight we had our approximate bi-daily after work FaceTime, and she mentioned that on a late night out yesterday, her and coworker and a few other guys I’ve never met went drinking and skinny dipping at a waterfall.
Boundaries background:
I’ve told my girlfriend in the past I’m totally open to her exploring her sexuality, like having an intimate make out at a concert or such, as long as she communicates what’s going on to me. We also have a really solid friend group and have all gone skinny dipping together around my other guy friends and their girlfriends etc. so that’s all chill.
— I’m feeling pretty weird about the situation, and was kind of surprised when she mentioned it on our FaceTime and didn’t ask me beforehand how I felt about her doing that. I think what gets me is I’ve never met any of the people, and I would certainly feel guilty if I had done the same without asking her first. We’re both pretty open people so she may not mind if I do the same, but I’m doubtful.
To the people that have read this: do you think my jealousy(?) is normal in this situation, or is it unfair for her to not tell/ask me beforehand? I told her I need to think a bit and that I’ll restate my boundaries better tomorrow once I collect my thoughts. I love her a lot and can understand her point of view, but feel like she pushed my boundaries pretty hard this time.
Thank you all!