Men of purity book
Has anyone tried to use the "men of purity" book,only available on Amen and Ash website, to quit porn?
I have found next to nothing about it online. It's a Christian book, claiming to help renew your mind so that you will never want to watch porn again.
It's described to work best when you have tried the filters and the blockers and using willpower and accountability, only to end in an endless cycle of shame and guilt.
It's controversial, telling you to continue watching porn as you read the book, completely letting go of willpower, and wait for the book to transform and renew your mind.
As a wife who has spent endless years and time trying to help her husband fight, and praying for his mind to be renewed so he would no longer desire porn even when he was able to use his willpower, it felt like a dream come true, finding the book.
The nightmare I'm living in now tho, does not make the book feel like and answered prayer. My husband is freely and shamelessly watching porn claiming he feels so free not being restricted and feeling shame. He also says there will be no accountability, ever, meaning I do not get to know what is happening, whether he stops completely or if it happens occasionally. He says he's starting to see but continues with the habit. I am absolutely heartbroken and a mess, trying to cling to Gods faithfulness, knowing that our prayers aren't always answered the way we want.
I truly hope that it will do what it claims, and pray I am able to see past the pain and betrayal I am feeling.
I have read parts of the book, and it truly does read like a genuine, wise, well written book, and it makes sense. The thing I'm struggling with is that it feels like he's using the book to freely watch porn whenever he can, in the name of not resisting. When I ask him if he is at least using the things he's learnt and applying them, his answer is basically that I don't get to know anything.
I'm a mixture of pure panic, and trying to trust that God is truly working on him from the inside out, but pretending that everything is okay is killing me.
Does anyone have experience with this book?