I don't want to be a sex therapist anymore
My partner (DX) and I have sex very irregularly. Often when we do, he is self-conscious and can't get into it and we break off early. Either right after that or a while later, we'll talk about it and I'll ask him to talk to a sex therapist and get some help, but he'll go into a long explanation about the perfect scenario for him having sex and how we should set it up next time and his reasoning for not being able to perform.
I used to really try hard in these conversations and thought it would help, but now we're having these discussions after one of every two times we have sex. The emotional energy is a lot, especially because I'm also really sad that our sex life is so bad.
I've read a bit on here and it seems like lack of a good sex life is pretty consistent for some partners of folks with ADHD (I'm really sorry to hear it too). I was wondering if your partners also put you in this unpaid-sex-therapist role? How do you deal with it?
I'm so tired and I just want uncomplicated intimacy (the dream right?!).
Edit: Holy wow, thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I know this is a tough topic to speak about and I feel way less alone in it now. I was kind of a mess today and your advice and insights have been so helpful. Therapy is definitely a must for the two of us.