u/Emotional_Meal748

This is a thought experiment, so imagine this for a second. Let’s say only 20% of men are attractive to you right now. Not “good enough,” but genuinely attractive. Now imagine that group suddenly disappeared overnight. Would your standards slowly recalibrate so that you’d end up finding 20% of the remaining men attractive instead? Or would you just stop feeling attraction altogether because the traits you liked are gone?

I’m asking because I wonder if attraction works more like hunger or like taste in music. If your favorite restaurant closes, eventually another place becomes your favorite because your brain adjusts to what exists around you. But with music, if your favorite genre disappeared, you might just keep missing it instead of forcing yourself to love something completely different. So when it comes to attraction, is it based on an objective internal standard, or is it mostly relative to the “market” of people available around you?

One way to explain how banning sex work affects men is to imagine a world where therapy was outlawed. Not everyone uses therapy, but for many people it is one of the few places they can talk openly, feel wanted, heard, or emotionally understood without judgment. For some men, sex work fills a similar role, not just through physical intimacy, but through companionship, validation, conversation, and temporary relief from isolation. When people dismiss all sex work as inherently immoral without considering why demand exists, they often ignore the loneliness crisis affecting a lot of men. The conversation becomes “men should just deal with it,” even while society increasingly recognizes the importance of emotional support systems for everyone else.

At the same time, men alone will probably never be able to shift public opinion on legalizing or decriminalizing sex work. Society tends to treat male advocacy around intimacy, loneliness, or sexuality with suspicion, while women’s voices carry more legitimacy in these discussions. Realistically, if sex work laws ever become more humane, it will happen because enough women acknowledge the issue as one involving labor rights, safety, autonomy, and human connection, not just male desire. Whether people personally support sex work or not, refusing to even discuss why it exists or who relies on it does not solve anything.