AITAH For going No Contact with my Dad a Month before I give birth?
Hey! This is my first time writing one of these but I need an outside source. I’ll try my best to not keep it long and not give too much personal information.
So my father and I have always had a pretty decent relationship. I grew up in the home with both parents and he was there/ active in some ways and I can never take that away from him. However, just because he was there doesn’t mean it was better—the type of household that we enjoyed more when he wasn’t there and saw him on the weekends more than weekdays.
He has always had a problem with accountability and has always been in a new cheating scandal every year or so.
Recently like clockwork, he has found himself in a new scandal once again and within the same week, a former scandal is not only attempting to contact him to show accountability, but they are now finding my media outlets and dragging myself, husband, and unborn child into it.
Claiming I have some doing in his mess, and cursing me, my husband, and wishing my child will grow up in a broken home to feel the despair he has done to others as well. Obviously I have no doing in any of this, I don’t even know who these people are—nor is this my first time attempting to go non contact with my father because situations like this.
However, this time this situation really struck a nerve in me. Growing up and hearing all his problems were always so frustrating and I would beg my mom to just leave him and not be apart of this. But now his drama is now including me and entering my new life, living in a new state, married, and creating my own family. So without hesitation I sent him all the screenshots, sent a message giving him my peace of mind, and blocked him with no regret a month ago.
Here’s where I don’t feel like an AH but with my child coming in the world I don’t want to take away their chance to have a grandparent. My mom keeps asking, “will I let him see the child once born or tell him any information,” and I have continuously told her “I am in no contact with him and I don’t know if I want to see him or let him see my child.”
I DO NOT like how he has always created drama in our family, and were told to forgive and he never has consequences for his actions for the sake of him being my parent. I am not using my child as a pon, but I just don’t want his stress near us, nor let him think his grandchild can have ill wishes put upon them because his unaccountability.