AITAH for not sending my boyfriend videos of us?
I (19F) and my boyfriend (20M) filmed ourselves having sex a few weeks ago on my phone and thought it was pretty hot, which it was. at the time. when i come back from his place a few days after i deleted it off my phone because it felt weird to keep seeing it in my gallery and i need to use my phone a lot at work, and it'd be super awkward if someone saw it accidentally.
the other day when i was at his place he asked me to send the videos to him and i said no. he asked why and i just said because i dont want to, which i thought would be a solid enough explanation as the videos are focused on just me and you can basically only hear me as well, so it's my choice where they go. apparently this wasnt a solid enough answer for him..
we dropped the topic after that but about 20 minutes later when i was doing my makeup for work he looked like he had something on his mind so i asked him what was up. he said he didnt understand why i'm not comfortable sending the videos to him if i have uploaded my nudes to fetlife before.
for those of you that dont know, fetlife is a bdsm-centered social media, and i was on it for a few months before we met. he knew when we started talking to eachother that i was on it and active in my city's local scene and i was very upfront about it.
i was instantly insulted and said ''excuse me????'' to him because i could not FATHOM the kind of logic that follows. i explained to him that i chose to upload those and what we filmed was an intimate moment between us that i want to keep private. he said okay and we dropped it again.
10 minutes later he looked like he had something on his mind again, so i ask him whats up and he says he hopes i know he didnt mean it to be mean but was just genuinely curious. i told him that it felt incredibly disrespectful and like he felt he was entitled to my body, which he isnt. he said it wasnt meant to sound like that at all but he said he was sorry. i still feel kinda weird about it, because he has been very insecure around the fact that i was on fetlife before we got together for most of our relationship and it felt like such a weird almost slut-shaming comment? idk. am i the asshole for not sending them or is he weird for pushing back?
edit to explain the video: it is just me visible. he isnt visible and im the only one in frame. the video was also my idea