Should I stay with my aunt for the summer
Before I start, I want to say that im 19 years old
So, on like may 2nd, I went to my cousins wedding and after, me and my mom got into an argument in the car. I was telling her that I didnt really like the dress she got me(it was too tight on me and I felt like it wasn't flattering on me at all) and she lowkey started lying and said that I asked her to buy it for me for prom last year which I know was a lie because I told her multiple times I wasnt going to prom so. I didnt tell her she was lying bc the worst thing you can tell an African parent is that they're lying so I just told her I never said that and she got really mad.
She tried hitting me from the passenger seat of the car, tried getting out the car while it was moving to hit me, then proceeded to throw her phone at me twice all while my younger sister was sitting on my lap. My dad didnt defend me (he only told her to stop hitting me) the entire time and was agreeing with her saying I was disrespectful etc etc and when I'd tried to speak he'd tell me to shut up.
The next day I left without them knowing and took thw train to my friends house and I haven't been back home since. My family members having been blowing up my phone but Ive been essentially ghosting my family & my last straw was when after this happened , my dad called me and said shaytaan(the devil) possessed her or smth like that to split up our family. like bitch what 😭 im not religious but even if I was, id still believe thats a bunch of bullshit. I already told my father that I'm staying with my friend for the summer because I truly dont wanna go home & its not like this is the only instance where something like this has happened, its just the first time where Ive left and said nothing.
My father says he misses me and hes worried and that my mom also regrets what she did but I spoke to my younger brother like 2 weeks ago and he told me she doesnt regret throwing her phone at me so idk what to believe anymore.
However Im more inclined to believe that my mom doesnt regret what she did because on Saturday, the friend that im staying with, & another one of my friends got a call from one of my aunts (mind u she was drunk off her ass) asking if they knew who I was and if theyre sex trafficking me.I literally have NO clue how she got their numbers. She also called the cops & me and my friend had to speak to them, and tell them that im not getting trafficked. I called my younger cousin whose the daughter of the aunt that called my friends & the police and she told me my aunt said, "(my name) wants to be crazy? Well tell her that her family can be crazy too" & my cousin told me she was laughing with my mom on the phone about it.
The police offiers told me they'd call my aunt and tell her that I was fine but just yesterday, one of my friends whose the sister of the other friend who got a call from my friend, told me her mom got a call from my aunt as well asking abt me like what the fuck!!
And Im not 100% sure it was my mom that my aunt was on the phone with but I texted my mom about it and all she texted back was "oh, yeah".
So from this point I already know Im definitely not going back home for the summer but like 2 hours ago I called my aunt (a different one) because I was feeling bad for airing her calls and essentially, she was telling me that she spoke to my mom & told me that she feels bad for what she did & on eid she was sulking and not speaking to anyone. She also said that my dad is sick worried for me and misses me a lot. She was begging me to just stay for her for the summer and that I dont have to see my mom but its better for me to stay with her because at least they'll know where I am & my aunt doesnt like how im staying at a place where they dont know the people that im staying with.
during the entire call with her, it just kinda felt like i was being gaslighted. She during the call she was saying stuff luke "Im a mother so ik how she feels ", family is the most important thing in life for a muslim, my friends cant give me what I need, etc etc
But I'm starting to feel kind of guilty even tho i still think its lowkey a setup and I just wanted the opinions of others w african parents/relatives . Would it be just best to stay with my aunt instead of my friend for the summer just so family relations are fine? Id rather stay at my friends but Idrk anymore and im rlly just lost