Is it really this common for bpd to hurt people so much?
I’ve broken up with my bpd ex over some nasty things she did to me. I just couldn’t handle it anymore. We were together for two years. Then she was crying and begging me to take her back for months. One night she said - I will always get my hopes up, because of what we had. So one week later I decided. She is remorseful. Let’s try it again.
I texted her and got a reply: I’m seeing someone else. Btw - it’s an ex boyfriend of her very best friend for over 12 years. But that is a different story.
Then I found out she was cheating on me throughout our entire relationship. With her ex. Turns out she used to cheat on him too. She told her other best friend that I exploited her sexually, which is a disgusting lie. Ironically, she wanted to have sex but I refused, since she was crying at the time and It would feel bad. She said that to make a victim out of herself. That is just a part of my story. So now I started going to psychiatrist, because I have trouble sleeping. The good thing is - her best friends took my side and just left her. Is it really that common for bpd person to do those kind of things? Or is it just extremum?
Edit: I’m also pretty sure she was sabotaging her friend’s relationship in order to get him. And while she was begging me to take her back she was still fucking her ex. And possibly even more guys. I know she was flirting with a few, but I guess I’ll never know. And to be honest - I don’t want to.