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Context - gave birth in Nov, my company I work for switched insurance providers for STD from Mutual to Prudential. I've been trying to get STD approved for about 3 months from Prudential and they finally sent me the claim money last week along with a letter STATING it was approved (my psychologist sent the note). I got a call today from a rep who asked me when the issue started, I said something kind of ambiguous along the lines of I've been struggling with mental health since I gave birth. She then said that they sent the money in error and I'm going to have to get in touch with the previous provider bc my issue is somehow technically connected to my birth bc my dr said symptoms started in Jan but the claim says I could not work from March to June.

I have a friend who is a lawyer who said they would send a letter but any advice??? I'm not trying to trick anyone I sincerely could not have returned to work I would have had a mental break down, whether or not it was related to birth. I did not file it as such either,I filed it separately from anything pregnancy related so it feels like they are just really trying to not pay me AFTER they sent the money.

What can I do? If you have clarifying questions let me know.

Hopefully some of you are HR or maybe even work for an insurance company? Context - gave birth in Nov, my company I work for switched insurance providers for STD from Mutual to Prudential. I've been trying to get STD approved for about 3 months from Prudential and they finally sent me the claim money last week along with a letter STATING it was approved (my psychologist sent the note). I got a call today from a rep who asked me when the issue started, I said something kind of ambiguous along the lines of I've been struggling with mental health since I gave birth. She then said that they sent the money in error and I'm going to have to get in touch with the previous provider bc my issue is somehow technically connected to my birth bc my dr said symptoms started in Jan but the claim says I could not work from March to June.

I have a friend who is a lawyer who said they would send a letter but any advice??? I'm not trying to trick anyone I sincerely could not have returned to work I would have had a mental break down, whether or not it was related to birth. I did not file it as such either,I filed it separately from anything pregnancy related so it feels like they are just really trying to not pay me AFTER they sent the money.

What can I do? If you have clarifying questions let me know.

I am 37 and recently had my first baby in Nov after having 2 miscarriages, a difficult pregnancy and a very traumatic birth (emergency c section). I was out of my mind for a couple of months there, processing the birth and transitioning into being a new mom, and omg the sleep deprivation...

I befriended someone younger than myself (she's 29) like 3-4 years ago and we became very close, I would have called her my best friend here (I'm not from here have other friends). I confronted her recently about avoiding me and especially when I need support, and she gave me a laundry list of reasons I had been a bad friend since being very pregnant and a new mom (one example being she was very sick weeks after I gave birth and complained that I didn't check in with her to make sure she was okay). For these reasons she said, she was distancing herself.

We talked about it all on one phone call and I tried to explain that I just haven't had as much to give of myself, and also that I wished she had said something months and months ago instead of unloading it all at the same time. She was comparing me to another friend who had a baby around the same time but had totally different circumstances... no miscarriages, didn't have a traumatic birth, and also not for nothing but isn't breast feeding which I've been exclusively pumping which is god awful. We left the convo at she said she needed to process.

3-4 texts later and over a week after that latest convo she completely ghosted me. My last text I said I didn't know what else to do or say... made it clear I was sad and trying. NOTHING.

I get that I really have not been myself for a while but would any of you still try and mend this relationship? We were so close and before this she was super supportive, but I honestly don't know where it came from and I was never aware I was being so inattentive. I'm not sure it was possible in the state I was in.

If you're wondering, no, she does not have kids.