I am not a wife to be project
Hey everyone!
This is my first real post here although I have stalked this subreddit for a while. I very rarely post on Reddit but I have been wanting to talk about this for a while.
I am born and raised LDS. I'm a 19F old and am finishing up my second year at byy Idaho. I was homeschooled growing up, and my family have always been very involved in the church.
I am making this post in light of a recent email I received from my dad.
Being a sheltered kid coming up to college was a culture shock. Specifically due to my friend group that I stumbled upon. They drank coffee and tea, wore tank tops and shorts, and had alcohol on the weekends.
After a life of viewing my body as something sexual and gross I suddenly realized I didn't have to be ashamed. I have a bigger chest and my parents would always make comments when I wore a low cut top.
Now I could be proud of my body and not try and hide it. I started dressing for myself, skipping church to go on hikes and enjoy the town, and truly get to be myself.
In the email my dad sent me he outlined everything he was unhappy with.
I admittedly cried a lot when I initially saw it, but now would love to show you all how ridiculous this is.
My take away is as follows:
- I am my own person and not a wife to be project. 1 am fed up woth the churches idea of a woman's worth being tied to how good of a wife she will be. Growing up if I mentioned wanting two sets of earrings my dad would sit me down and tell me a high value man would not want me
- Our bodies are not sintul and I should not be dressing on hopes a man will approve
- The hypocrisy of my dad saying activities on the sabbath are up to interpretation but I cannot attend a concert IS ABSURD.
- shaming me for a silly TikTok I posted was completely inappropriate.
I’m sick of playing along and being a good pure girl.
Men in the church can do whatever they please while we have to tip toe in fear that they will not want us. I am a person with goals and aspirations.
I feel like there are layers of doubts clouding my mind.
My conscious is battling with the idea that maybe I was wrong about the church.
Any commentary would be lovely. I just had to vent but any advice/take always helps!
**** I apologize for typos I was tired writing this