I (28NB) am starting to grow resentful of my sister (30F) after the death of my brother-in-law (54M). What would you do in my situation ?
My brother-in-law (54M) passed away a few days ago. I came back to my sister (30F) because she begged me to, a few days before he passed. I work in a very remote place in something quite specific, so coming back implied for me to cross the world, spend several thousand euros in traveling + burning 10 days out of the only 15 days of holidays I get in 15 months. My parents, who live about eight hours drive from her, also came to support her.
When I say brother-in-law, the truth is, he’s been cheating with my sister for seven years. A year ago he was diagnosed with brain cancer. His wife found out about him and my sister the day before he passed while going through his phone, and so she threatened to slap my sister if we were to show up at the ceremony.
I’m starting to be honestly quite tired of supporting her, although I love her very much. I feel like she has a quite fucked up moral compass (she dated my first boyfriend when he broke up with me at the time, she’s always been quite self-centered for many things, and is still financially dependent on my parents although she allows herself to buy luxury things) and should have gotten therapy like, yesterday.
I realize that I’m starting to grow resentful of the situation, and although I am here sometimes I definitely had to go out and get a breather to be able to support her through grief. I feel like my parents enabled her way too much in her life, and I’m at loss in my relationship with my family