My tinder date doesn’t think I look like my phots
Me (22f) and my partner (23m) have been together for three months. A couple of weeks ago, I went through his phone. I didn’t find anything crazy, but I had a feeling and just wanted to check. My last relationship was really rough, so from time to time, I check his Snapchat and stuff. Nothing crazy, and if he wanted to check my phone, I’d let him, so call it even.
To make a long story short, I ended up finding a text about myself on accident of him telling his friend that “she isn’t as pretty as her photos but valid” or something along those lines… I don’t use any filters or skin-bullring filters, so this is kinda a shock to me. I mean, I posted my best photos, no editing, but who doesn’t on a dating app?
My last relationship was rough on multiple different levels, but I’m trying my best to work through it. I wasn’t even sure if he was attracted to me at first, but I pushed it off as overthinking. But honestly, even after sitting with this for a couple of weeks, I can’t help but ponder what that exactly means. Honestly, it took a hit on my ego. I don’t really feel beautiful to him. But I’m honestly not sure if these feelings are valid or not. How would most people feel/react to a situation like that? Am I acting out of insecurity of a girl who was cheated on, or is this as bad as it seems to me?
I’d love to see other thoughts and maybe a way to approach this, even if it’s inward revision. It hurts feeling unattractive to your partner, and if that’s the first impression of me, that’s depressing especially when I do try and put effort into my appearance.