Did I miss the latest memo?
I logged off the apps for a few weeks. Logged back in Thursday and got some matches. I am now intentional in my swiping, so only swiping on profiles with effort, photos and that I can see something to chat about (thanks to my previous posts, slowly implementing people's advice).
Some matches were straight up duds with no conversational skills. That's fine, easy to unmatch and move on.
Then I have three guys who start really good, can carry a conversation, banter, enjoyable to chat to, then bam, out of no where "do you have an kinks?" WTAF!! Is this a new trend? I have only ever been asked this two or three times since Jan and usually it was quite far into chatting.
It is an unmatch from me, so I don't think it is a viable strategy.
Edit: This usually occurs within the first hour or 2 after matching. Still in those initial connections.