Frustrating Parents - Fix Your Paperwork
Arizona but it doesn’t matter. My mother had a bad health scare. She was in ICU on a ventilator for a week. Super scary. She had a medical POA with my sister but not on file with the hospital. She had verbally told my siblings and I that I had financial POA.
Anyway, at day 4, the hospital starts having general and gentle conversations about living wills, mom’s wishes things like that. No decisions yet but preparing you. We go to mom’s safe, no papers. WTF? We end up calling the attorney and asking him to send us everything. She told us it’s all documented and taken care of but where are the documents mom????
Meanwhile, we have to break into her utility accounts (guessed her passwords based on a sticky note by the computer) to pay her late utility bills. Why aren’t these on autopay???!
No real questions here but we will be having a direct conversation with my parent. Make this easy on your kids - please.
I will be going home and putting everything in order. That includes listing out utilities, account numbers, passwords, auto bill.
I can’t make my mom be organized but I will damn sure do better by my kids.